- 7 years ago
I have three sisters. One of them, C, has gotten in some trouble recently (as in was arrested for possession of a small amount of prescription drugs). Sister A had been staying with Sister C, as Sister A had just left her husband, which is a whole other story. I had to drive to the city where Sister A and Sister C live in order to bail Sister C out of jail. We briefly considered having her involuntarily committed, as her boyfriend kept telling us she was suicidal. I went to see her in the jail before deciding to bail her out, and she was just really angry. She just wanted to get out, and boyfriend wouldn’t bail her out. Said he was done with her. That he’d been covering up for her drinking and drugs for years. Sister G lives in another state, and she immediately said that we should bail her out, and not commit her. Sister A wanted to commit her. I decided to bail her out.
So, I bail her out, and she’s still really angry that we all don’t immediately believe that it was all a mistake. As a bit of backstory, I haven’t seen or really spoken to Sister C in over a year. We had a big family intervention that turned in to a blowout fight over her suspected drug use. She was so nasty, it was disgusting. I chose to step away.
The first time I see her after all of that is when I see her in jail. I bailed her ass out, I took her to the bondsman, I tried to help her find a lawyer. I’m a lawyer, but not a criminal law specialist. She gets out of jail and starts yelling at Sister A, whom she believes is responsible for getting her put in the psych ward. Takes a little while, but she finally understands that it’s boyfriend’s fault.
Sister C has two beautiful children. We all suggest to sister C that the kids should go visit Sister G out-of-state while Sister C gets a handle on her situation. Sister C agrees and sends them to Sister G. In the six weeks since, Sister C has reconciled with boyfriend (the one who refused to bail her out), and is fighting with Sister A. “Sister A is a big liar. I wasn’t on drugs…etc.” Sister C is yelling at Sister G about not believing every word that comes out of Sister C’s mouth. Sister C is calling her kids at 11pm. Sister C accuses Sister G of trying to steal her kids. Sister G promptly books a flight to send them home, as Sister G has no legal right, and no intent to “steal the kids.” As if she could. Sister C won’t really talk to me, other than sending crazy text messages about how Sister A is a liar and bad person.
So, my wedding is in November. I will be devastated if all of my sisters are not there. Sister A has already said that she’ll be on her best behavior. I’m not worried about Sister G. It’s all Sister C. I feel like if the date gets closer, I’m going to have to have a chat with her, but then it’s going to bring everything back up and then I’m dealing with irrational, crazypants Sister C.
On top of all of this, I’m incredibly PISSED that I was the one who bailed her out of jail. Sister G was the first one who said we should get her out, rather than commit her. But Sister C has aligned herself with horrible boyfriend, and doesn’t appreciate anything we’ve done for her.
Is it worth even talking to her? I dont’ want horrible boyfriend at the wedding, because I think he’s a disgusting human, but I’ll deal with it if it means my nieces, Sister C’s kids, will be there.
Maybe I just need to call Jerry Springer. Sigh.