Post # 1
and Fiance is stressed. 🙁 Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law are divorced, and have been for over 15 years. Future Father-In-Law lives in another province and although Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law would be civil to eachother, it’s going to create some very tense, awkward moments.
FI’s family and family friends do not like Future Father-In-Law due to how they separated and now we don’t know who he will sit with. We also don’t know if he’s planning on bringing his girlfriend (who is a very nice lady, but again, could be very awkward.) We kind of just gave him the option to decide if he wanted to come or not and just this past weekend he decided he would.
Has anyone had to deal with a situation like this? How did you handle seating arrangements, and family photos? Keeping the Future In-Laws apart?
Post # 3
So are you over-all happy that he is going to be part of this day? Or more just stressed and anxious about things that could go wrong?
Post # 4
You should ask him if he wants to bring his girlfriend. Maybe try seating him with your side? Is anyone from FFIL’s family coming?
My SIL had this problem at her wedding and she had some very nice, older cousins on her mom’s side, who did have fond memories of her dad offer to take him at their table and it worked out.
Post # 5
@red_rose: Definitely more anxious and stressed. He hasn’t really been a part of FI’s life since he left 15 years ago and Fiance and him don’t have that “father/son” relationship that most people have, so he doesn’t even feel like he can talk to him.
@HisIrishPrincess: Nobody from FFIL’s side is coming. FI lost all contact with that side when Future Father-In-Law left. There are a couple people who were mutual friends of Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law that we might be able to put him with, but they also haven’t talked in years!
This is one of the reasons why Fiance wanted a small wedding *facepalm* I feel so bad that he’s in this situation now.