- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I had posted a while ago that FI’s Dad and Grandpa offered to pay for our wedding since they know my parents cannot. While we’re happy for the offer, we’re also dreading it a bit. Then, came the fiasco that Future Father-In-Law doesn’t see the need to start planning and reserving the venues “so soon since the wedding isn’t until March 2013.” FI’s grandpa is fine with everything, but we have to go through Future Father-In-Law, even though they are both paying for it.
Last Monday Fiance e-mailed his Dad the venue information and how there’s only two Saturdays left in March that are free and we never heard back from him.
This weekend, Future Father-In-Law and his new girlfriend came down for a visit. FFIL’s girlfriend brought up her sons’ upcoming wedding and we chatted about that for a bit. When the conversation stopped, we eased into the topic of our wedding and Fiance brought up the venues. When Fiance asked if he had gotten the e-mail, all Future Father-In-Law said was, “Yes, the day you sent it.” Why he didn’t respond, we don’t know and didn’t ask. I just thought it was so rude.
When we asked what he thought of the places, Future Father-In-Law scrunches his face like he got a whiff of something rancid and says, “I don’t like it. I wouldn’t get married there.” Fiance and I said that we liked it and it’s exactly what we want, to which Future Father-In-Law said, “Well, if you want to settle and get married at someplace like that, well, it’s your wedding.” And then he talked about how he got married in his father’s mansion and backyard, yadda, yadda, yadda.
Fiance looks it as that his Dad is not stopping us from choosing that venue, and while I agree and that’s true, Future Father-In-Law didn’t stop going on about how he didn’t like it and the faces he made was as if he tasted something putrid. It was so hurtful.
Now I’m dreading that every time we tell him an idea or plan of what we want, he’s going to pull something like this. Future Father-In-Law and Fiance and I have VERY different tastes and likes/dislikes, so I know we’ll not “agree” on anything. I told Fiance that I’d rather we paid for the wedding than deal with this. Heck, I’d risk going in debt rather than deal with his Dad about our wedding plans. That’s how awful Future Father-In-Law is. Fiance doesn’t want to tell his Dad we don’t want his money and he says if his Dad continues to berate what we want, he’ll try to talk with him.
Oh, and then Future Father-In-Law tells us, “Well, at least it won’t be a big wedding. There’s not that many [insert FI’s last name here].” I looked at Future Father-In-Law and said, “There’s my family and our friends, too” and Future Father-In-Law just shrugged and went back to eating.
This stuff is just making me lose my drive to plan and get excited about our wedding.