- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Background: Fi and I rent upstairs (apt. like) from FILs. We have two 19 month olds. FFIL does not work.
Ok, yesterday, I took my boys out to the front yard to play. Inevitably, FFIL followed us out as he always does since he has nothing else to do. At one point he tried to take one of the babies to the back yard. (Backyard houses his ferocious dogs. These dogs kill birds and cats on a regular basis and never get walked. The last time FFIL tried to walk them, they dragged him down the street. Literally. His face was completed scuffed up).
Back to the story; He wanted to take one of the babies to the backyard. I tried to stop him by telling him I do not want the babies going into the backyard. He responded with “They just had their flea meds” (the fleas are the least of my concern at this point). I told him it was not about the fleas and that I just dont want the babies anywhere near those dogs. While I’m trying to explain this, he proceeded to take the baby into the backyard against my concerns. He satidfied himself by staying back there for about 2-3 minutes then brought they baby back to the front. Of course, now the next baby wanted to go to the backyard too. So FFIL picked him up and said “Your mom doesn’t want you to go”.
Now I;m ready to go back inside to avoid anymore issues, but baby #2 continues to want to go to the backyard to see the dogs. So, FFIL tells him that he could see the dogs through the back window in the house (which I thought was fine). We went inside and I took baby #1 upstairs expecting baby #2 to be brought upstairs shortly after by FFIL. I waited then felt like they were taking to long so I went downstairs to check on FFIL and baby #2. To my dismay, FFIL had baby #2 standing on the deck in the backyard eating oranges (dogs are nearly almost always on the deck). I was so upset that he took him into the backyard against my wishes so I grabbed my baby and went upstaits w/o saying anything.
On his way home from work, I spoke to Fi and told him how upset I was at FFIL and told him the story. Fi agreed that FFIL should respect our wishes and said he would talk to him. Fi spoke to FFIL (who is an alcoholic btw) about the issue. FFIL is now very upset. I could hear him screaming at the top of his lungs about how much he keeps the yard clean for the babies and how much he loves them.blah.blah.blah. He was completely insulted that I was upset about this.
I just saw him about an hour ago and he said “Don’t worry I’m not touching the babies anymore” blah.blah.blah. I guess he’s saying that he is not going to talk to me or handle the babies anymore. It’s just so annoying because he never takes responsibility for him actions. Whenever someone is upset at somethings he does or says he always makes it seem like the other person is an asshole and never admits or recognizes when he’s in the wrong.
I just don’t know how to handle the situation. I would normally just go about eachday as if nothing happened and wait for it to blow over, but it’s just awkward because I see FFIL everyday as he doesn’t work and is always home. So if I go outside or out with the babies I will def run into him.
I can’t really talk to him about it because he is ignorant, closed-minded, bad listener, will prob be drunk and never admits when he is in the wrong.
What to do….