FFIL treating our house like a hotel for the wedding! (vent)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Oh he’ll to the no!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I mean hell, autocorrect censors me, lol

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Just say, “Sorry that won’t be possible,” and refuse to explain any further.  Who the hell wants people staying in their house when they’re getting ready for their own wedding?  (I totally agree on the cat thing too.)

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MariContrary:   How about sending him an email with links to nearby hotels?  

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Does your FMIL know he sent this email?

Guys are stupid. He probably doesn’t realize all the stress you’ll be under, and you definitely won’t need a buttload of guests in your house to add onto it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Umm, just tell them no.  What’s the biggie?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Also I know what you mean about the cat thing.

My dog (whom I love more than anything!) is a runner. FI and I literally have to jump out of our doors and slam them shut…… When people come over, I literally remind me like 10x a day. It makes me so stressed thinking about him getting out.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MariContrary:  Woah. Yep, I’d be furious and wanting to respond with a snark. Instead, I would respond with a simple, “We won’t be able to manage that with all the stress and logistics of the wedding, but here is a link to VRBO (vacation rentals by owner), I’m sure there is a local house that they can rent cheaper than hotel rooms.”

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@OnceUponATime:  +1, great idea. Save them money without opening your house. I get that travel is expensive, but your ffil’s solution just isn’t feasible

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree that the best bet is to just politely say no and not give an explanation unless it is brought up again. ( Easier said than done, I know.)

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I can’t imagine a whole bunch of grown adult would want to camp out in a living room, dining room, basement, etc.  He didn’t seem very pushy, maybe just clueless.  If you don’t want to do that, just say no, maybe suggest how many you could possibly accomodate, like just immediate family.. if any at all, and leave it at that.

We had my SIL, her hub and daugher, DHs best friend for the week, and his parents and aunt/uncle also passed by and stayed a few days.  If there’s room, I don’t see the problem of helping out some family.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MariContrary:  Well, at least your FI is on the same page as you. I understand your frustration, but it seems like you both are a united front and can stand firm with your response (a big, fat NO!). 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m tagging in, my in laws basically did this to my parents who they have only met twice. 

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