- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn
We’ve been bugging FI’s parents for any family or friends they wanted invited to the wedding since we started planning, especially since my famly is so much bigger and closer than his and takes up much more of our guest list. We made sure to ask multiple times because we know how spacy his dad can be sometimes. They visited right after Thanksgiving and we made sure to ask them one more time, and they both said no, that there was no one else they thought would want to come.
Imagine my surprise when a week after sending out our STDs, and finalizing ALL of the invites, complete with peacock feathers and envelopes, he calls us to add at least 7 more people who are hearing about the wedding through the grapevine, who will be “just so put out” if we don’t invite them. We can’t even get started because we don’t know exactly how many he wants to invite, and we may be tight as it is with the venue. We’ve had some people already RSVP “No”, but I’m really nervous to add too many more to the list just in case anyone who has already received a STD changes their minds over the next few months, and we wind up having no space. What happens if we invite someone else to take their place and thay call me two months out to say, “Hey, I can actually come”?
I’m just trying to avoid hurt feelings and stress, and I know that’s what FFIL is trying to do, too. His timing is just really shitty, and the stress part is backfiring, at least on my end it is. And I’m worried that he’ll continue adding people as the day gets closer and closer. How many others are going to hear about it now that even more people are being invited? How many other people are going to be insulted if we don’t invite them? It’s just frustrating because I used almost all of my materials for invites, and will definitely have to get more. And I don’t think he understands that for every person that’s invited a lot of extra individual work has to go in, especially when they’re added now that we’re 4 freaking months away, AND coming from OOT.
The silver lining is FI says he won’t feel quite so under-represented on his side, since it’s mostly his friends that are invited rather than family, so I’m trying to just get it done because I know it will make him happy. And he’s doing his best to make it clear to his dad that these are the ONLY additions that will be made to the guest list from now until the wedding. We just don’t have the time to worry about everything else AND figuring out where to put people at the last minute. I just hope he listens.
I don’t think anything has yet to make me facepalm this hard during the entire process of planning this wedding. Le sigh.