Post # 1
My FSIL likes expensive stuff… if it’s overpriced, she wants it. I let her pick out the flower girl dress for her daughter & she chose a gorgeous one from J Crew. I’m the one that told her about the cute dresses there knowing she’d bite because of the price. (I know, sneaky…)
Well, her entire family is flying out here for the wedding & I just found out it’s going to cost close to $2000, not including the hotel, food, etc. I feel SO much guilt for getting her to buy a ivory dress for a 3 year old that is $170+ tax & shipping. The FG will never wear it ever again… She’s holding off on buying the dress until closer to the date b/c obviously the baby is going to grow over the next 8 months.
So here’s my question: Should I pick a less expensive dress and/or just pay for the dress myself?
Post # 3
If she chose the dress… she should be okay with the price, right? IDK maybe you should ask her directly. Maybe she’s thinking the exact same thing you are, but doesn’t have the courage to tell you she changed her mind.
Post # 4
Can FSIL afford it? It seems to me, since you are letting her pick out the dress, that it’s up to her discretion. Maybe you could email her and say you found some more affordable dresses at “X” store and you’d be happy with whatever she picks (alluding to the price of the Jcrew dress). That way, she knows she has flexibility and you’d be understanding of the dress.
Or, if you can afford it, then just pay for the dress and it’s a win-win for everyone! 🙂
Post # 5
Honestly? If she’s that easily persuaded… well, Proverbs (in the Bible) says “A fool and [her] money are soon parted.”
hehe… I don’t mean to sound bratty, but its her choice, she needs to be an adult about it. Did you give her other, similarly cute options in other price ranges? Or just let her pick all on her own?
If you really feel guilty, find a similar dress that’s cheaper and present it to her as an option, something like, “I love the dress from JCrew, but ran across this one and it’s so similar, but cheaper, I know you’re spending a lot of money to come to the wedding, so thought you might like alternatives to choose from. It’s up to you, I’ll let you buy her whatever you want.”
Then walk away.
Post # 6
You could tell her you love the dress but are not attached to J. Crew and if there is a cheaper dress she would rather get, you are sure you would love that too.
Post # 7
If she chose it than I wouldn’t worry about it. If you do feel guilty, why don’t you give her some alternatives that are a little less pricey, maybe look at department stores, they have some really cute options for way less money. If she still wants to get the more expensive dress, then you wont have to feel as bad.
Post # 8
I say find a less expensive dress and give her the option btw the less and more expensive one!
Post # 9
Give her a less expensive option and let her know you’re okay with either. I mean, if she wants to spend her money, by all means, it’s her decision.