(Closed) FG dress guilt

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?
    Pick a less expensive dress!! : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Pay for the J Crew dress. : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Pick a less expensive dress AND pay for it. : (0 votes)
    Let her pay! After all she chose it... : (15 votes)
    88 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    33 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    If she chose the dress… she should be okay with the price, right?  IDK maybe you should ask her directly.  Maybe she’s thinking the exact same thing you are, but doesn’t have the courage to tell you she changed her mind.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Can FSIL afford it?  It seems to me, since you are letting her pick out the dress, that it’s up to her discretion.  Maybe you could email her and say you found some more affordable dresses at “X” store and you’d be happy with whatever she picks (alluding to the price of the Jcrew dress).  That way, she knows she has flexibility and you’d be understanding of the dress.  

    Or, if you can afford it, then just pay for the dress and it’s a win-win for everyone! 🙂

    Post # 5
    Member
    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Honestly? If she’s that easily persuaded… well, Proverbs (in the Bible) says “A fool and [her] money are soon parted.”

    hehe… I don’t mean to sound bratty, but its her choice, she needs to be an adult about it. Did you give her other, similarly cute options in other price ranges? Or just let her pick all on her own?

    If you really feel guilty, find a similar dress that’s cheaper and present it to her as an option, something like, “I love the dress from JCrew, but ran across this one and it’s so similar, but cheaper, I know you’re spending a lot of money to come to the wedding, so thought you might like alternatives to choose from. It’s up to you, I’ll let you buy her whatever you want.”

    Then walk away.

    Post # 6
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee

    You could tell her you love the dress but are not attached to J. Crew and if there is a cheaper dress she would rather get, you are sure you would love that too.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    If she chose it than I wouldn’t worry about it. If you do feel guilty, why don’t you give her some alternatives that are a little less pricey, maybe look at department stores, they have some really cute options for way less money. If she still wants to get the more expensive dress, then you wont have to feel as bad.

    Post # 8
    Member
    6598 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I say find a less expensive dress and give her the option btw the less and more expensive one!

    Post # 9
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Give her a less expensive option and let her know you’re okay with either. I mean, if she wants to spend her money, by all means, it’s her decision.

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