(Closed) FH and guest lists annoyance. HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Welcome to the nightmare of guest list making!  Just kidding, we’ve all been there, and I can completely sympathize with you.  My best advice would be to decide your overall number first.  If you need a little “help” determining your number, maybe look at venues first and get their capacity counts so you know how many people you can have if you want your ceremony/reception at that place. 

Then, divide out the numbers.  FI gets X, you get X, and parents get X (if applicable).  Then it’s up to them to choose their peolpe, but they can’t go over their count.  That’s what worked best for us.   Good luck and hang in there!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It also helps to have a dollar amount for the all-in cost of each guest — even if it’s just a ballpark. Once he realizes that each person is going to add, say, $200 to the total cost, maybe he’ll have an easier time prioritizing! “Hey, those coworkers of yours are going to cost about $5k to invite. Are you sure you need to invite all of them?”

Good luck!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Soon2B_MrsS:  I tend to agree with your FI on the co-worker aspect. It really is all or nothing, the all only being 22 people means that he works in a small environment. Which in turn means that if he invites Mr Smith, but not Mr john, these people will know and Mr john will be offended and that in turn could ruin the remaining career he has at his company.

If he worked in one of those overtly huge corporations with thousands of workers in different levels, that would be a case of either all or nothing of his department.

 I work in a small office, and if I were to only invite certain people, I know the rest would be offended and that could potentially affect a raise or promotion now or in the future.

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