- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
I am at a loss as to handle this situation:
My FH’s mother thinks she does not know how to throw the rehearsal dinner (his father is paying for it though). So my FH’s aunt volunteered to help my future mother-in-law with the rehearsal dinner.
My best friend is a graphic designer and designs and prints invitations for a living. So what we are doing is having her sketch the building where the rehearsal dinner is going to be and create an invitation. My FH took the picture that the sketch is going to be based on and we were really excited about it. The building is old and historical and we thought it would be personal and special if my friend designed the invitation.
I e-mailed my FH’s aunt and told her what we had in mind as far as my friend doing the invitation and she responded saying “i don’t know about that…what i had in mind was something more formal and festive.”
We are getting married a week before Christmas and I really did not want a so-called “christmas theme.” i told my wedding planner to not use any red! I told this to my FH’s aunt and told her how special it was to my FH and I that my friend was going to do this for us and that she was able to do print them out, get envelopes, and then we could use my FH’s aunt’s calligrapher to address them. She responded I quote, “don’t love the idea, but let’s talk on the phone”
Here is my problem, his aunt throws a lot of parties and I don’t doubt that she knows what she is doing. But I highly doubt that I am going to be able to convince her into liking my idea of invitations. I don’t want to be rude to her whatsoever, I am grateful that she is helping my future mother-in-law. I also am not trying to step over my boundaries regarding the rehearsal dinner, I know that is the what the groom’s family contributes. But I just have a hard time that this aunt is running the show and being so critical of what my fiance and i want, not just what I want.
I am not confrontational at all and would never want to come off as disrespectful to the aunt, but I am a loss as to what the right thing is to do. Do I stand up for what is important to my fiance and I or do I just let the aunt take over, disregarding what we want? Help!!