FH being unrealistic about catering!!

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Everything doesn’t have to come from the same place. You can hire servers and bartenders, and rent silverware, plates, napkins, etc.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

@BurlapnLace:  If this is the only thing he cares about, I would let him have it if he organizes it.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BurlapnLace:  What a PITA! My sweet BF also turned into a horrifying Groomzilla when we were engaged (and has since returned to normal post-wedding).

He also refused to listen to reason (like that having BBQ for the rehearsal dinner AND the wedding is over-kill)

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@BurlapnLace:  errr…. What other way is there to eat barbeque besides with plastic utensils and paper napkins? Just saying…

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@BurlapnLace:  Have you priced out any barbecue caterers? Even with the $800 non-preferred vendor fee, odds are it will be low enough in price compared to a traditional caterer that it would still be less expensive. Plus, when I have been to weddings that served barbecue, it was always a buffet just due to the nature of the food prep, so you could actually get away with less servers. Also, when catering companies provide dishes and linens, they are usually a line item in the total cost, so it may not be that much more to source them separately.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BurlapnLace:  Just an idea, but contact caterers that contract with the colleges/universities in your area.  They have a wide assortment of dishes they do, and are a one stop shop (even desserts).

But also keep in mind, DIYing your liquor and hiring licensed bartenders will probably be 1/3 of the cost of having a caterer doing it.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BurlapnLace:  This can be done if you find the right caterer.  Any caterer who is any good will be able to give you exactly what you want within your budget.  I was the one who wanted the simple BBQ but my DH is also a foodie and wanted so much more.  The compromise ended up being a fabulous caterer who provided us an amazing menu of southern fusion ideas and mediteranean twists.  It was a huge hit.  And they did bartending, busing and real plates.  Haha!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Is your problem with the paper plates that they’re disposable/wasteful or that they look tacky? You could rent place settings separately or borrow a “shabby chic” collection from friends, in any case. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BurlapnLace:  Just do a bit of thinking outside the box when it comes to food. I had the same problem as you (and I’m in NJ) because we were thinking “fancy looking bbq buffet” which we had gotten the idea when we went to Percy Street on South Street in Philadelphia, which has this strange semi nicer but still BBQ food type set up on WAX PAPER AND TRAYS. I think its how they present the food and the atmosphere honestly:

See how the plates are on trays?

 

We ended up decided on a caterer that offers out of the box food. Its actually a restaurant in the area that happens to do off premises catering. One of dishes that FI made a must was the Stout-braised brisket (BBQ-esque).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Give him a budget and the money from the budget and said. Make it happen with your requests if he cant make it work then he needs to let it go.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BurlapnLace:  First off- I have to admit I am suprised that your caterer you can use won’t work with you to offer a BBQ inspired menu- or offer some “traditional” food items, but then have mini pulled BBQ pulled pork sandwiches, offer half corn on the cobs, coleslaw, offer ribs- even as a passed app?

 

Our in house caterer offers thier menu.  But every request they have had, they have done for us- everything!!

Have you talked to them about adding some of your own signature dishes?

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