(Closed) FH could show more interest…

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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898 posts
Busy bee

It was a big deal for me, too. Unfortunately, my FI didn’t understand/care about many traditions. I mean, he grew up in S. America, and apparently his family never did engagement rings. I even have to tell him when some major holidays are coming up.

Maybe you should ask him why it’s not a big deal to him. Maybe he feels pressured to get you the right one, but feels bad because he has no clue what he’s doing. It’s easier for a man to take an "I don’t care" attitude than to let them know they’re lost.

Just talk to him about it.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My FI had that attitude, too! He just told me, "E, get whatever you want. It’s your finger, your ring". It’s still OUR marriage, though. He thinks all rings look "nice". He’s a guy! He really didn’t care because it’s MY ring, not his. And, it was a bigger deal to me that I get something I wan that looked good next to my engagement ring. When i picked out my two diamond bands, he was like, "wow…you DO have good taste". But he never would have picked them out himself. Be glad your FI is giving you a choice! Not every girl gets that option and it’s really nice when you’re picky (aka anal like me) about jewelry. 

Men and women don’t have the same taste anyways. I know we all want our guys to be overly excited and involved, and some are, but some guys are just laid back about it. I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. It’s not that he doesn’t care about giving you A ring, he just doesn’t care which one you get because, likely, he wants you to like what you get. 

My FI was kind of like "whatever you get me is fine" in regards to his ring, too. He’s just very easy going, but I made him pick out a style he liked, and once I got down to specifics (how do you like the fit, do you want it wider, etc) I ended up custom making a style he liked in a width that wasn’t commercially available. 

I think you’re being a little too fussy, so perhaps I gave you a different perspective? But that’s my own personal experience so i may be way off base =]

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