Post # 1
My FH lost his father this past Feb. It has been very difficult on him. He has always wanted his dad to be his bestman. I suggested that if he wanted we could leave that space as empty and we would acknowledge it for his dad. He as also talked about having his dad’s close cousin to fill that position. Now my question it what to do on the programs depending on which he decides on we aren’t sure yet. I am good with what ever he chooses. Would you say that his dad is the best man and that the cousin is the honarary best man or what? I don’t know what could be done to truly show that his dad is the best man.
Post # 3
Maybe if you go with his cousin, on the programs you could say:
Best Man: Cousin’s Name, in loving memory of Father’s Name
Post # 4
I like hcritton’s idea! It honours both people!
Post # 5
how would the cousin feel about standing in for his dad? would he know about that beforehand? could he reference it in his best man speech
Post # 6
hcritton, that’s a wonderful idea! Mentioning your FI’s father sometime during the ceremony and/or during the toasts might be a good idea too. Can you ask your FI how he would like to honor his father or is he too sensitive right now?
Post # 7
The cousin knows and another friend of his has also offered to stand in if needed so I don’t know what he will decide. He isn’t too sensitive right now since it was Feb. He has his moments when things are tough. These are great ideas. I will have to talk to him more about it.