Post # 1
So, here in the south, we do groom’s cake. It’s expected at a wedding. I had toyed with the idea of not having one, but it just didn’t seem fair to FH that everything was basically “all about me”. I decided that I would get him a groom’s cake. And it was SUPPOSED to be a surprise. I didn’t tell ANYBODY about it, not even my mom.
FH is a BIG Lonesome Dove fan. His two favorite movie series/book series of all time is tied between the Godfather (LOVE!) and Lonesome Dove. After figuring out that there was no way for me to really do a Godfather groom’s cake without including a horse’s head or making it cheesy, I decided to go with Lonesome Dove.
Anyway, long story short, FH found out about it.
That man can figure anything out. And I hate it. I have never been able to surprise him with anything, no birthday’s no anniversar
His birthday is coming up, and he knows EXACTLY what I got him. I try SO HARD to hide reciepts, to clear internet history (if I shop online), I schedule delivery dates so he won’t be home, but somehow, he manages to see the box, and tell me exaclty what I got him.
I’m not mad, I’m frustrated. I’ve been trying for 4 YEARS to surprise this man, and never once has it happened. Haha. GRR!
Any of you ladies have trouble surprising your man?
Post # 3
Nope, I’m the surprise ruiner in our house.
However, my husband will buy anything he wants. We get into it every Christmas, that he’s not to buy ANYTHING between Rememberance day and Christmas. I always end up having to go return and rebuy his gifts because he’ll come home with what I’ve bought him. Not because he figured out my game though.
Post # 4
@Winter12: I could have written this post word for word. I have the exact same problem with my FI. so annoying!! I try so hard to surprise him, but he always always guesses what it is or figures out evvverything!!
Post # 5
Haha. FH doesn’t ever really buy himself anything, and when it comes time for any gift giving event, he only mentions 1 or 2 things that he wants or needs, so it’s hard for me to buy him something he doesn’t want or need. He did however, mention that he needed a new pair of work boots, and I had intended to get him a pair for his birthday. So, as I’m heading out the door to go buy them for him, he comes in with some new boots…
So far, Christmas has been a little better, at least last Christmas. I’m hoping that I’ll be able to surprise him for our anniversary November 9. I’m going to hide his gift at my mother’s house.
Post # 6
Lol, I always figure out my Fiance’s surprises for me…
Post # 7
I always get stuff delivered to my parents house if it’s for my FH and I think he’ll be able to tell what it is by the return address. If you don’t have parents nearby, could you start having things delivered to your work or a friend’s place?
OR I tell him not to look at the return address and he’s pretty good about not looking– he likes surprises.
Also, I like to wrap small presents in large boxes and add books to the box to make it heavier than it actually is. They might have an idea about what it is but when they see the huge box, they get totally thrown off. But that is only a good idea if it’s a REALLY awesome present– not if it’s a DVD or something like that. (My ex did that to me once. It was a DVD in a HUGE box and I thought it was going to be something else.)
Or if it’s a big present, I’ll hide it somewhere at the last second (like in a closet), and put a little note about where to find the present in a box and gift wrap the little box. Kind of like a scavenger hunt type thing.
As you can tell, I like to have a lot of fun with surprising my FH and family. Good luck at Christmas!
Post # 8
My parent’s live about an hour away, but it’s not a big deal for me to go see them. They usually meet me halfway to go eat and whatnot every now and then.
I will probably send our anniversary gift to their house, and also his Christmas presents to see how well it works out, since apparently hiding things does not work haha.
I’ve NEVER had any clue as to what he’s getting me. In fact, I rarely know his gifts are in the house… I guess I just don’t pay enough attention.
Post # 9
I have this problem too! I thought I was the only one. I know in my case it is because he is extremely observant — he misses nothing. He can remember what he has mentioned he wants or that I have noticed he might like and also knows me well enought to guess which of those items I am most likely to buy. And he is always right. Ugh.
Post # 10
ditto @SapphireSun: i am the surprise ruiner in the house. it just comes with my type-a, computer junkie self + predictable DH. i try to act surprised for him tho 🙂 it’s not fun to ruin the surprise all the time.
it’s easy for me to surprise DH, cuz i never tell him what im thinking, or ill tell him other things to throw him off… and he does a good job of not snooping around like i do 😛
Post # 11
@Neva: FH is an observer as well. He uses all sorts of mathematical formulas to calculate weight and he goes from there. FH doesn’t even act surprised. His birthday is next Tuesday, I got his gifts last Thursday. When I got home, he was sitting on the couch and he looks at me and said, “Thanks for the books you got me.”
Apparently, they had been delivered a day early, which under any other circumstance would have been fine. He didn’t even bring the box inside. He just picked it up, and knew what it had to be.
It’s really upsetting to me honestly. I would like for him to at least act a little surprised, or just not tell me that he knows.
During our second year of dating, I told him I wasn’t getting him a damn thing, he could go get it himself, since he would totally ruin the surprise anyway… Yes, I was hurt, and needless to say, FH doesn’t think it’s a big deal. “I’m just going to find out what it is in a day or two…” is always his response.