Post # 1
I got a text yesterday saying “bad news… got laid off today” and he acts like it’s just all good. I’m freaking out though. We have a mortgage & two car notes…. plus cable, insurance, utilities, etc. etc. etc. If I have to pay all the bills on my salary we won’t even have enough left for food. He’s a union employee and there’s like 140 something people on the list looking for work ahead of him. I did at least convince him to look for work in other places.
Then on top of the stress I am incredibly, incredibly dissapointed because once I got paid today we were going to pay our downpayment for our honeymoon. Now we have to save every penny we have to survive. There will be no saving for the honeymoon not until he gets a job and we get caught back up. Am I completely selfish for being upset about the honeymoon?
I’m not really sure what I’m hoping to get out of this post… I’m just so stressed and I don’t want him to know because I feel like it would only make things worse.
Post # 3
I’m really sorry that happened! I can’t imagine how stressful it would be to lose a job right before a wedding. I hope he is able to find a job soon!
Post # 4
OMG! That is dreadful. I’m sorry this happening. Hopefully, your FI will hustle and get another job asap.
Post # 5
Not selfish at all! I didn’t get a honeymoon right away bc I was still in college and had to start back to school a couple days after my wedding. We did stay in a nice hotel downtown for two nights and it was really nice like a “staycation” we went to Cabo for our one year anniversary/honeymoon, then Vegas, then Puerto Vallarta.. My point being, I know it isn’t ideal but you will have lots of time to go on vacations if it doesn’t work out right away.. After all you will be married forever and that’s a long time 😉 sorry about the job loss.. I hope he finds one soon that is stressful for anyone
Post # 6
Thanks girls 🙂
It’s just so tough because we had all of these plans… saving for the honeymoon, beach trip in Juy, etc. and now with no warning it’s all up in the air. I do still get to marry this man, no matter what, and that’s reason enough to smile though!
Post # 7
I was actually the one laid off last year for 2 months. My FI was the most amazing, supportive partner I could have asked for and boy would I have been pissed if he acted any differently. He was off work for 1 month last year and I was equally supportive to him.
We are lucky in that we can survive on one income, but I can certainly understand your stress and disappointment. Just keep in mind it will only make things worse if you’re fighting with him on top of financial woes, and men get a lot of their pride from their work. He’s feeling it too, of that I’m sure.
He won’t be laid off forever and you guys will get through this time and you will have a honeymoon. Now we are both working (making a sh*tload more money than before) and we are all the stronger as a couple for getting through the tough times without any fighting and added stress.
Post # 8
I’m sorry 🙁 DH and I had to wait around 4 months to take our honeymoon. Definitely not ideal, but at least we got to go eventually. Maybe you can go ahead and cut your cable? DH and I are cutting ours this month and it will save us $75/month. At least it is something… I hope things get better for you soon!