Post # 1
So 8 months ago we did our budget, when we got to the photo/Video section FH declared- NO VIDEO – he sees it as a waste of money and doent want a camera in his face all day. I said ok, not really thinking to much of it, after all this wedding bussiness is all about compromise!
Fst forward a couple of months and I was starting to regret giving up on it so easy, started researching- and falling in love- with wedding highlight films!
Now we are four months out and Im in the state of mind where I think its sad that we wont have any of the days action on film, to watch in the years to come and I KNOW i will regret not having a Videographer!
Brought it up with him last night, and he still says its a waste of money ( 2-3k for a videographer) and as we were having this conversation I get an email from my Make up artist whose friend is trying to build their wedding portfolio ( is a short film and doco person) and is offering a full days coverage for $550. I thought it was a sign…
Have any of you had to convince your FH something like this was worth it? what were your arguments?
Post # 3
I happen to agree with your FI. In the end, I’ve asked multiple people who have been married 10+ years how many times they watched their wedding video and ALL of them said not once after the first year.
In fact, most of them said the same thing about expensive photography. After a while, you just don’t look at them anymore.
Post # 4
really? all the people I ask say the video gets more play than the photos get looked at!
I just know I will want to be able to look back at the day in action ( I love home movies- and whenever I head home to New Zealand I always watch ones from my childhood and also my parents wedding from 30+ years ago) We have 2 daughters and I just think it would be so lovely for them to be able to look back on too.
Post # 5
So I have been struggling with this too. I just didn’t want to pay 1500-2000 for a wedding video. It usually costs that much because you are paying for their time to edit the footage and set it to music etc…….all the extra hours they have to put into editing basically. I just don’t have a budget for it, but I still want to have a video to look back on. My brother is performing the ceremony which I don’t want to be taped with a shaly iPhone. Plus I want to see all the little moments that happen during the day that I will have missed cause I’m off doing other things.
Then my DJ was discussing this with me and asked if I would mind not having it edited but just take the 1-2 hours of raw footage for $500. I totally jumped at that!!! He knows someone that will spend the day video taping the wedding and will give me all the raw footage!!! I am so excited and I think that is totally worth it. I am good with iMovie and so I know I could make something to music or to give to other people.
I think the $550 is totally worth it in the end, sometimes pictures aren’t enough 🙂
Post # 6
550 is totally worth it! I already love watching other people’s videos – so I know I will love watching mine. Plus, if you had a chance to watch videos from your parents or grandparent’s…who would say no to that? 🙂
Post # 7
Mine is not thrilled about it, but I just kept saying “babe, you gotta watch this one! Its soooo beautiful!” And I think pointing out all the stuff that they would miss if the vidiographer didn’t capture it, like the sound of my fathers voice giving his speech, watching the grooms face as they get choked up as the bride walks down. Stuff like that they will never remember. And I pulled out the “wouldn’t you love to see your grandparents wedding? How life was way back then? Our kids will want to see ours and hopefully their kids too!” And he’s in! He finally said, I guess I agree!
Post # 8
@NearlyMrsRad: I’ve been married 20+ years and I still watch the video occasionally, like once every 2-3 years. I am so happy to have it. It captures so many little things about the day. Including snippets of a few people who have since passed away.
I think for $550 it’s well worth doing. Try to convince FI in terms of $550 isn’t really that much money in the grand scheme of things.
Post # 9
I actually don’t see the point in a wedding video, but we are both a bit camera shy. I can barely get him to agree to having pictures taken. Our wedding budget is on the smaller side, so for me it seems like a better investment to put that money towards a better photographer.
Post # 10
I used the sentimental angle too,
and also Basically said to him ” You wont regret having one but I WILL regret NOT Having one!)
So he said ok, I confirmed the deal with the videographer and we get 12 hours coverage, with 2 camera’s,
10 DVD/Blu rays with a 4 min highlight reel, and a 25 min feature, plus the un edited footage of all speeches and ceremony.
All for $550!! SO Im happy, and now FH is happy as I managed to find my shoes at 75% off so can filter that budget line towards video and we are half way there!
I know I will love watching mine in 20 + years time too.
Post # 11
Go for it! Put your foot down.
I truly believe you will regret not having one.
Post # 12
I just got our “sneak peek” video back from our videographer and absolutely love it!! And it’s only a 2 minute version!! 🙂 I’m so glad you found such an awesome deal and convinced FI to get on board!!
Post # 13
@NearlyMrsRad: Also tell him most people are paying 2500 or more – that’s what we will be out at least for ours! So you are truly getting a deal – whether you saved money on shoes or not! haha
I’m so glad you convinced him! I hope it turns out beautiful. 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
My FI was totally against it too, but we came up with a cool compromise. An aquaintace told us that for her wedding she used this company that mails you four flip cameras. You give the cameras to four different guests (who don’t mind doing it) and they film from different angles. After your wedding, you mail the flip cameras back to the company and they do professional editing to make a highlights video. It costs around $200. I was so glad we found a way for me to get a nice video and for FI to not weep over the cost LOL.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
@DJones69: I think it just depends on the person… We watch our wedding video at least once a week (and we’ve been married 8 months). It’s online so we can just watch it on our phones when we’re laying on the couch or wherever, so it’s not like the old days when you’d have to rewind a VHS tape and stick it in a VHS player to watch a movie.
We’re sentimental saps, though. I think we’d probably watch it just as often even if it was just footage shot by a relative with a camcorder.
I watch it often when DH is out of town on business – we’re not the type to make hoome videos or anything so it’s nice to hear his voice and see his face on video and think of that beautiful day.
@NearlyMrsRad: That’s such a good deal! So excited for you girl!
Post # 16
@Mrs. Wallaby: Notice I said 10+ YEARS, I didn’t ask newlyweds because I expect them to stare at pictures and watch videos, although I haven’t seen mine and I keep saying I will, but I doubt we’ll pick it up again after we see it the first time.