FH is not hispanic… HELP

posted 3 years ago in Latino
Post # 2
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124 posts
Blushing bee

One of the biggest things that I would suggest is that you not place so much importance on your ethnic background. It’s one thing to want to incorperate your two families, but I’m just not understanding why him not being hispanic is an issue?

I’d would just suggest that you all just celebrate holidays or birthdays (or whatever) without even thinking about the differences in how Hispanics vs NonHispanics celebrate. What is truly important is that you all try and celebrate these moments together, regardless of backgrounds. Hope this helps! 

Post # 3
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4794 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

mgarcia01:  Incorporate the 2 families for what? The wedding or overall forever? If it’s the latter I don’t think they need to be incorporated, necessarily.

Post # 4
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354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

mgarcia01:  I’m not sure what the big deal is here. I’m white and my SO is Korean, and we’ve never once worried about how our families would mesh or how we would incorporate traditions. People are just people. If you wanna do hispanic traditional stuff, do hispanic traditional stuff and just have them join in.

Post # 5
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326 posts
Helper bee

I totally understand where you are coming from. Ask his family if there are any traditions that are important to them in a wedding and add those in as well… That way they will feel like you included both backgrounds and everyone will have fun!

Post # 6
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339 posts
Helper bee

I would sit and talk to him. Figure out what is important to you, what’s important to him and how you can minimize offense of others. Sometimes people dont really understand the traditions and inner workings of a culture. I think this is an opportunity to teach both him and you FMIL about the culture of you family. Just dont give it to them all at once lol… it could be overwhelming.

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