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I accidently left my blog open minimised on screen and FH got reading it. I came in and went oh noes....and he goes is that your wedding dress and I said yes... he goes.. it makes you look bigger than what you are. I dont like it..

He is always very honest and his opinion i do admire most the time but this time it hurts.

boo!

were on a really tight budget. I thought I wouldnt mind it once its all altered..I thought id be really happy with it because it does fit really well... now hes just said that, I doubt that it will look better??  I did say it would be altered and he was like oh ok..

I dont know what to do at the moment..

atm its just the neckline.. well simply because it had a neckpiece collar thing and it looked horrible so we tucked it in and it doesnt fit around my chest it sits loose and the length of the dress. That was the only thing. I liked everything else about it, I just hated the way it didnt fit now? if you know what I mean before its altered? . He saw the pic of the only photo of me in it before it got tucked away before it gets to alterations.

heres the dress - *deep breathe* No make up tho and my hair is in a simple bun.

I dont think its too late to get another one. i know I can sell the dress. Ill wait till FH gets back from his karate lesson which will be soon and Ill talk about it with him then.

honest is fine day dream, Id rather people be honest than fake. :)

I talked to FH and we are going to look at new dresses together. And were still going to get the alterations done, just in case I dont find anything.

He came back and realised i was upset and very much the comforting guy and he looked at our budget, and he said we have up to 1k we can spend. So thats a plus.

I can sell it, but i wont get the same price. I got it for $1200 reduced from over 3000 dollars.

Thanks for the words of encouragement girls!

You are handling it better than I would be. I would have flipped out on him! Honesty is definitely better than lying, but knowing when to keep one's mouth shut ranks higher, in my opinion. I would absolutely cry if FI were to not like my dress because I do feel like I am getting dressed for him on that day. I would have to find a new dress even if it meant taking money out of other budget areas or starting to save for a dress all over again. I couldn't wear it because on the day, even though I should be excited and forget it, I know that as I'm walking down the aisle, that comment would be in my mind. So for what it's worth, your dress is beautiful and I do think it looks nice on you, but I personally could not salvage the emotion for me. That's why I don't want my FI to see it till the day because then I know he will be so caught up in everything that even if he doens't like it, he wouldn't say it!

amaryllis. you wrote exactly what Im feeling. I do feel the dress can be salvaged tho, thats why im giving it a shot with alterations.

Im going to try the dress on tomorrow so FH can see in person. and if he still doesnt like it, were going dress shopping. I feel very stressed at about finding a new dress as now I doubt my opinion.. on what i feel could be the right dress for me.

Thanks again ladies. its great to have WB to kinda vent out too and help problem solve.

I know what you mean lil. Ive been looking at it over and over and FH is right. I need a new dress..

*sigh*

yeah absolutely stoked. I forgot to update! But what a stressful friday night and saturday morning. I even went down to the bridal store and tried on other dresses, I nearly fell in love with another by www.bridesbymancini.com 'allison' but I just wasnt in the mood as I doubted my choice and style.

 FH asked to see it in the arvo and I tried it on (had my hair down and make up on) and he was stoked.. thought I had def made the right choice after I explained what I was getting altered and what it would kinda look like. He said it was just a bad pic of me in the dress and had him completely thrown.

absolutely relieved.. and feeling 100 times better. I was completely shattered by his comment.. absolutely shattered.

the top needs major altering.. thats the biggest thing  that needed altering,  more v shaped or sweetheart. I am thinking about taking the flowers off alltogether or at least moving them up. And the dress maker is taking off major length off it. The dress maker has my dress at the moment and Im going in for my first appointment next month she wanted to do a few sketches first before I came in.

I think he will remember he has a very good memory. He can remember stuff that I said ages ago he remembers down to what outfit I wore and when..   but at least he likes it now but my god he can put me in a whirlwind.. it had almost felt like someone had died i was that depressed by the comment.. I knew it didnt fit exactly how I wanted it before altering.. but I know that dress has potential, im not going to give up on it was definitely close tho!