(Closed) FH Loses Job (Again) – 1 Month From Wedding.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9631 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@dragonlover:  ((HUGS)) I am so, so sorry this happened to you and your FI.  Wow, that’s brutal.  Could you postpone your honeymoon until a later time and save the money from it until your FI finds another job? 

Hang in there, hon, it will all work out.  This economy really sucks. 

Post # 4
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7241 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@dragonlover:  Oh man. I am so so sorry! That really sucks. 

I assume you don’t have travel insurance that covers your airfare, right? Is the vacation all-inclusive? If you’ve already paid for it, I would say go for it. If you haven’t paid for the hotel and/or it’s not all-inclusive it might be best to postpone. 

Post # 5
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry!

First–take a deep breath. Make sure you don’t take any of your stress/nervous energy out on him. Things happen, people get laid off, it will be ok. As you said yourself–you guys have savings and the wedding is paid for (YAY!).

The job market is very good right now (I’m in staffing) and he will find something else quickly. Don’t cancel the honeymoon. You can message me to get details about how to handle the situation if he gets a job prior to the wedding (regarding taking time off, etc) if you need to.

This might be a blessing in disguise. It might be awesome to have a groom with time on his hands in the final weeks leading up to the wedding. I would love that!

Post # 7
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am SO sorry, my fiance never has the best luck with jobs either. He recently was let go of his job about a month ago and has been working a temp job since. Are there any temp agencies in your town? From what Ive seen, you usually start working within the same week. I would say if he cant find another job by the wedding, I would feel more comfortable not going on a honeymoon. But if he does, at least you know money will be coming in soon.

So sorry 🙁

Post # 8
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187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I second the temp agency recommendation. If you can get your money back for your honeymoon, that’s an option. Also, remember that you’ll likely get cash for wedding gifts, which can cover some honeymoon and living expenses for a while until he’s able to find another job. 

 

I’m so sorry this happened to you guys again. 

Post # 9
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@dragonlover:  Hang in there hun, sending hugs your way.  My DH lost his job a month before our wedding too. He’s still unemployed but we’re making it work.  We debated about cancelling the honeymoon but ultimately did not (and I’m so glad we didn’t!)  It was nice to get away and relax and now that he’s back he’s super motivated to get on the job search.  It’s really important to keep life as normal as possible and still find ways to have fun!  

It sucks, but things will get better.  Be supportive and stay positive for him (I know it’s tough) and my #1 piece of advice is don’t expect him to apply for jobs all day every day! It’s not a realistic expectation, and if he feels you think he isn’t making an effort to find a job, it will really cause a rift in your relationship. 

Maybe he can pick up a part time job for the time being, then get focused on the full time search when you get back from the honeymoon (if you chose to go!).  With only a month before your big day, if he starts applying hardcore now, he might get call backs for interviews while you’re away and he wouldn’t want to miss those! (at least that was our reasoning).  A break for him to let his bruised ego heal for a few weeks isn’t the worst thing.

Good luck, and here’s to short unemployment for both of our men!

Post # 10
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@phillybride61513:  Since you say you’re in staffing, any sales positions you know of in the Mid Atlantic region?  Software/technology sector? Figured it doesn’t hurt to ask!

Post # 12
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

As someone to whom this has happened more times than I’d like to recall, it’s going to be okay.

Cancel your honeymoon for right now. You can always book it at a later date, and while I’m sure Costa Rica is beautiful, a cruise is much better bang for your buck. Focus on paying down what you have left. Get your FI to apply to EVERY staffing agency in your area. Staffing agencies can find you jobs faster than you can find them for yourself, and LOTS of companies use them. He will most likely have to fill out mountains of very annoying paperwork and take a bunch of tests. They’re tedious and annoying.

Post # 13
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ugh!  I hate when this happens!  DH got laid off in September of ’12 and in May of ’11!  It has been such a nightmare.  I would help him look for new work asap.  Dh is a designer working in a deli.  Yeah.

I don’t know what else to say, but hang in there!

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