Post # 1
I’m absolutely besides myself right now and I don’t know what to do about it…
FH called me an hour ago, and told me he was laid off from work despite having a union job. Yup, that’s right. He missed his sales goal by 3 percent – not including all the prom and wedding tux reservations he’s made over the last few months because “Those don’t count till they pick them up.”
His company just laid off all employees at his store (5) minus the manager and a new guy there 1 week and still in training as of 11 a.m. this morning because the store didn’t meet sales goals.
Is it me – but if the entire store misses sales goals, either your goals or too high or there’s an issue with the store/advertising/locatin – not employees.
I’m devastated. We’re 1 month out from the wedding.
We just paid rent on our first apartment together…
Now he has no income.
Everything for the weekend is either paid for, is just awaiting final payment (roughly 3k). I’ve got plenty of savings, so I can pay for the wedding, have a good chunk of savings left over.
But I’m stuck pondering…
Do I cancel our honeymoon? We had a nice $2,500 trip to Costa Rica planned. Is it worth the money now? That’s more than two months of rent. Our plane tickets aren’t refundable, so we’d lose that.
Will we ever have the chance to go on a trip like this again? Likely, we’ll never make time.
What corners can I cut with all the contracts in and signed?
What to do…
Post # 3
@dragonlover: ((HUGS)) I am so, so sorry this happened to you and your FI. Wow, that’s brutal. Could you postpone your honeymoon until a later time and save the money from it until your FI finds another job?
Hang in there, hon, it will all work out. This economy really sucks.
Post # 4
@dragonlover: Oh man. I am so so sorry! That really sucks.
I assume you don’t have travel insurance that covers your airfare, right? Is the vacation all-inclusive? If you’ve already paid for it, I would say go for it. If you haven’t paid for the hotel and/or it’s not all-inclusive it might be best to postpone.
Post # 5
First–take a deep breath. Make sure you don’t take any of your stress/nervous energy out on him. Things happen, people get laid off, it will be ok. As you said yourself–you guys have savings and the wedding is paid for (YAY!).
The job market is very good right now (I’m in staffing) and he will find something else quickly. Don’t cancel the honeymoon. You can message me to get details about how to handle the situation if he gets a job prior to the wedding (regarding taking time off, etc) if you need to.
This might be a blessing in disguise. It might be awesome to have a groom with time on his hands in the final weeks leading up to the wedding. I would love that!
Post # 6
@Sunfire: If we postpone, we’ll never take a honeymoon. He’ll get a new job, won’t have vacation time (that’s a concern too) and…. we just won’t ever take a real vacation. We’ve been dating 6 years and never taken a real vacation. Closest we’ve come is flying to Florida to spend holidays with family for 4-5 days.
@MexiPino: We paid the $50 deposit, but I can cancel up until April 17 and get everything but that $50 back. The airfare is non-refundable, and that’s about $850 right there. Of course, FH got his passport, so that’s another $135 or so there.
It’s not all-inclusive, we’re missing a few meals. All hotels, transportation and activites are included.
It just… this upsets me beyond belief. The honeymoon, i was looking forwad to as much as the wedding day itself. I can’t justify it now.
Post # 7
I am SO sorry, my fiance never has the best luck with jobs either. He recently was let go of his job about a month ago and has been working a temp job since. Are there any temp agencies in your town? From what Ive seen, you usually start working within the same week. I would say if he cant find another job by the wedding, I would feel more comfortable not going on a honeymoon. But if he does, at least you know money will be coming in soon.
So sorry 🙁
Post # 8
I second the temp agency recommendation. If you can get your money back for your honeymoon, that’s an option. Also, remember that you’ll likely get cash for wedding gifts, which can cover some honeymoon and living expenses for a while until he’s able to find another job.
I’m so sorry this happened to you guys again.
Post # 9
@dragonlover: Hang in there hun, sending hugs your way. My DH lost his job a month before our wedding too. He’s still unemployed but we’re making it work. We debated about cancelling the honeymoon but ultimately did not (and I’m so glad we didn’t!) It was nice to get away and relax and now that he’s back he’s super motivated to get on the job search. It’s really important to keep life as normal as possible and still find ways to have fun!
It sucks, but things will get better. Be supportive and stay positive for him (I know it’s tough) and my #1 piece of advice is don’t expect him to apply for jobs all day every day! It’s not a realistic expectation, and if he feels you think he isn’t making an effort to find a job, it will really cause a rift in your relationship.
Maybe he can pick up a part time job for the time being, then get focused on the full time search when you get back from the honeymoon (if you chose to go!). With only a month before your big day, if he starts applying hardcore now, he might get call backs for interviews while you’re away and he wouldn’t want to miss those! (at least that was our reasoning). A break for him to let his bruised ego heal for a few weeks isn’t the worst thing.
Good luck, and here’s to short unemployment for both of our men!
Post # 10
@phillybride61513: Since you say you’re in staffing, any sales positions you know of in the Mid Atlantic region? Software/technology sector? Figured it doesn’t hurt to ask!
Post # 12
As someone to whom this has happened more times than I’d like to recall, it’s going to be okay.
Cancel your honeymoon for right now. You can always book it at a later date, and while I’m sure Costa Rica is beautiful, a cruise is much better bang for your buck. Focus on paying down what you have left. Get your FI to apply to EVERY staffing agency in your area. Staffing agencies can find you jobs faster than you can find them for yourself, and LOTS of companies use them. He will most likely have to fill out mountains of very annoying paperwork and take a bunch of tests. They’re tedious and annoying.
Post # 13
Ugh! I hate when this happens! DH got laid off in September of ’12 and in May of ’11! It has been such a nightmare. I would help him look for new work asap. Dh is a designer working in a deli. Yeah.
I don’t know what else to say, but hang in there!