FH won't sell his old truck…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

just leave him alone – dont nag or bring it up- he will do it when he is ready… guys have WEIRD attachements to cars– my dh has SEVEN cars that do not run, just sitting at his dads property growing weeds and covered in dirt..he  said he will start going through them and seeing which ones he wants to get rid of–he said this last year- he hasnt gotten rid of one but i know he will in his own time. i dont force the issue.

Post # 4
2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well it is HIS truck. He bought it before you were involved with him. As long as it is not currently impacting your budget, let it go. As for leaking oil – get some kitty litter under that thing to soak it up.

Post # 5
1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

IMO there’s alot of sentimental attachments to that truck… Just leave him be… As long as money isn’t going into it anymore..

Post # 8
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think that he’s got an emotional attachment and is having a hard time letting go, but the HOA issue is very real.  Tell him you love him, that he doesn’t need to get rid of it until he’s ready, but that he’s got to move it because of the HOA.  I don’t think that’s being too naggy or unreasonable.

Post # 9
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Cappugcino:  +1. This. Don’t pressure him to give it up, but do explain that at the very least it needs moved.

Post # 10
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SouthernGirl:  it might be HIS truck, but it’s leaking oil and taking up space in BOTH OF YOUR driveway. I’d just gently let him know that you know it’s hard to let it go, but it needs to be done. Both of you need to figure out a plan.

Something like:

we will accept 1k if we get an offer for that much in the next 2 weeks, we will accept $750 if we get an offer for that much in the three weeks following, and we will accept $500 or a junkyard’s best offer if it takes longer then that to sell. We will place an add in craigslist, and we will contact a junk yard for an appraisal immediately (we called a guy that the company that towed Fis car knew when it was dead and gone. The guy came out and offered $250. I doubt your guys truck will get anything near that, considering the shape it is in).


This isn’t just his problem/ his truck anymore. What’s yours is mine, right? Including the junker in the driveway or yard making the house look grungy and ruining the driveway. Instead of just saying “why isn’t it gone yet? I’m getting upset with this” approaching it in a way that plays to his logic might help.

Fi’s car broke down in our last apartment’s parking lot. We got a notice to move the car for maintenance, and the apartment staff told us to park it at a nearby business (we assumed they got the business’ blessing, first) Well, we got towed. The apartment didn’t give a fuck (I got yelled at for even bringing it up. Assholes…) and we didn’t have the money to get it out of the yard. So we sold it. I know it broke my guys heart to do it, but it was time, and we got a push to do so. I don’t think he could have done it on his own, so I helped him work through it. It was difficult at the time (it was his first car) but after it was over, he was really greatful to me for taking care of it in a large part for him.


Good luck! Hope it all works out (and you guys don’t bite each other’s heads off!)

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