Post # 1
My FH works as a sheriff and is going to be starting an academy to adavance further in his training. This is what he wants to do for his career so I support it 100%. The only problem is we thought he would be going to the academy in Januray so he would be out by July but he found out the other day he might be going in August. If this happens then the wedding will fall right in the middle of the academy! Luckily he only has class mon-thurs. i talked to him about the whole honeymoon after the wedding thing and he said he couldn’t get off until the end of November and the wedding is the end of October. I compromised (isn’t this what marriage is about!) but then I ask him if he could take off Thursday before the wedding to help and he got very offended and said he couldn’t. Am I over reacting getting upset and irritated about this whole situation?!! I thought work could work with him a little more but they are no help at all and he’s not willing to ask much from them.
Post # 3
Well you’ve got quite a long time to figure out his scheduling, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
Are there things you absolutely need his help with a few days before the wedding that would warrant time off or is it just a it would be nice to have him around to help? My FI has 6 weeks vacation next year and will not be taking any time off leading up to the wedding (except the day before because we NEED to get our marriage license and the wedding is out of state). It would be nice to have him around the few days before but I don’t need him there excepte for the license, so it’s no big deal for me. It’ll be a busy time at work so he wants to only take off the days he truly needs to.
Ultimately, it sounds like your FI has a really good work ethic, which is a positive trait in the long run and much better than the alternative…
Post # 4
SOunds like it could be just too hard to pin something down that far out. Either just be flexible with the honeymoon (as in take it in November when he is free, or wait until a holiday break). There’s no rule the honeymoon has to be right after the wedding!
Instead of proposing ideas, either just wait until you both have more infor or ask him to come up with an idea.