FHs being more affectionate closer to wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1634 posts
Bumble bee

@tiffanyscanlan:  our wedding isnt until April, but it seems like the more we talk about our future, the wedding, our next home, and stuff like that, he gets more affectionate. Whereas before we got engaged these topics used to really freak him out. It’s really sweet and makes me even more excited that he’s the person I get to spend my life with! I’m really sorry to her about your FH’s family troubles though!

Post # 4
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes I’d have to say I definitely saw a parallel to the timeframe and his affection.

We went on our Pre-Wedding Trip (we were Eloping to a Destination Wedding) for the weeks beforehand.  And Mr TTR was certainly more close / cuddly.  More hand-holding, more snuggling, sleeping in each others arms etc.

Altho in my case I put it down to a variety of things at the time

We were on vacation (so more relaxed) – It was Christmastime (we are always more romantic over the Christmas Season) – and there was the whole Wedding then coming up as well.

In our 7+ years together we’ve had some truly romantic times… but by far our Pre-Wedding – Wedding – Honeymoon Trip was some of the best by far.  Memories I will cherish forever.

Hope this helps,


Post # 5
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m having the exact same thing happening right now. My FH is always pretty wonderful. But today when I mentioned next month I would be his wife he really stepped it up! lol! 

Post # 7
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Aww I wish we had been that way!  Neither of us was THAT stressed about the wedding, but still I noticed us getting in more fights as the wedding approached.  I think for me it was more of me nitpicking little things about him as I thought about the reality of dealing with those things forever, ya know?

Post # 8
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

My SO has also be more affectionate over the last few months and now that we are just over 2 weeks out even more so. He is also getting a bit nervous about getting everything done and stuff which is really sweet. I genuinely feel that the last 3-4 month leading up to the wedding has been magical for us. We haven’t done anything out of the ordinary, but we have gotten a lot closer and I can’t wait to marry him 🙂 

Post # 10
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @loving_life:  ahh, I think that is pretty normal as well.  Planning a Wedding is stressful… even a small Wedding.

Mr TTR and I went thru a phase (thank goodness it was a short one) where I was most definitely stressed out prior to the Wedding… about 2 months out from the date.

It was in the weeks before we left on our Pre-Wedding Trip (that would evolve into the Wedding & Honeymoon, as we were Eloping)

I was tired, and a bit burned out.  I felt that there was still sooooo much left to do, and with going on Vacation, Getting Married, followed by the Honeymoon and then coming home and having the Back Home Reception, I felt that there wasn’t any way that I could get everything I wanted or needed to do accomplished in the time that remained.  And there weren’t going to be any “second chances”… stuff had to be completed BEFORE we left cause we’d be “on the road” for close to 6 weeks.

Many people find preparing for a trip stressful… Washing, Packing, Organizing etc.  ADD in the fact our trip was over Christmas, had a Wedding in the Middle and a Honeymoon at the end, and covered 1 Province, 14 States, and 8 Countries (and 3 different climates) and the packing alone was a nightmare !!

Ya I was rather snippy there for a week or so !!

Mr TTR was a doll tho, he recognized that I was stressing out so he gave me a wide bearth (permission to vent more than normal), and instead of withdrawing, he actually stepped up his game to help me thru it.  He was really really sweet that way.

And so ya, it was a nice thing when we were finally on our way… and enojoying our holiday together… that was most certainly the “romantic” bit that I spoke of above to the OP.  The fact that he was able to be so attentive to what I needed whether it was before we left with oodles to do (and him pouring me a glass of wine, or running a bath for me at the end of the day) or when we were on our Christmas Vacation and he came back to the Condo with a bunch of flowers from the Grocery Store, or getting up ahead of me, and letting me sleep, while he was in the kitchen making me a surprise breakfast in bed… he was a sweetheart for sure !!


Post # 11
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

My FI is always affectionate. I haven’t noticed the level change at any point during our relationship. He is a very consistent man.

Post # 12
1640 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site


Yes, same here!  You and I have the same wedding date too  :p

Post # 14
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Experiencing this recently as well.  We are 2 months out and he has been super sweet.  Not that he isn’t usually, but he isn’t the most affectionate person.  Lately he messages me hourly to talk about how close the wedding is and how much he loves me.  He apparently talks about me at work a lot as well.  Certainly not complaining! I love it!  I am attributing it to the wedding getting closer but hope it stays after!

Post # 15
2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@tiffanyscanlan:  YES!!! He has been hugging me more, kissing me more, in bed he will cuddle up on me.  I love it! 

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