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I just got a text from FH saying is dad went to the ER in Philly!!!

FH just got out of work, so as of now I have no clue why he is in the ER or why he had to go to one in Philly...we live in Central PA so Philly is 1-1.5 hours away and we have a good hospital right in town?!

Wow I don't even know what to say. We are in the middle of getting stuff together for the wedding since we leave on Sunday for the OBX and now my mind is just spinning....

Thanks ladies. FH isn't home yet but he said it has to do with his eyes. I'm even more confused now. I don't understand why he couldn't go to the ER here (I mean if he needed special care then I understand but as of now I'm so confused)? I guess I'll just have to wait till he is home to find out more.

@da3lyn: Hey Goodmorning! Not really. FH came home and again said it has to do with his eyes. He said something that he's going blind (I had no clue) and had an eye appointment earlier in the day. When he went to the appointment the doctor sent him to the ER in Philly right away because that is the only place that does the type of surgery he would need (makes sense about Philly ER now, but I have no clue what that special surgery would be or what is actually wrong). FH spoke with FBIL who said they were still running tests late last night and have to do more today.

FBIL was supposed to leave Sunday for the wedding with a childhood friend and FFIL was coming down later in the week. If he needs surgery FH said the friend will come with us Sunday and FFIL and FBIL later in the week, but I have a hard time believing that if FFIL needs some major surgery he is going to be able to travel in a less than a week!? I mean I would totally understand if FFIL and FBIL stay behind (FBIL is the bestman btw). Stuff happens and I just hope he is ok and we get some more answers here soon.

@da3lyn: Once I hear something I'll let you know. I probably wont find anymore out till much later tonight :/

Oh I am sorry for your FI & family.  I hope that everything works out okay. Sending prayers. 

I just wanted to let you all know that I still know nothing! FH is at work for a little while longer so if he's heard anything I wont know for a few more hours.

It's killing me not knowing what's going on

Everything is fine as of now.

I talked to FH last night who had just spoken with his brother. FFIL has to go back to Philly in 2 weeks for more testing, but as of now everything is fine. They still are not sure exactly what the issue as with his eyes, but I guess it wasn't as serious as FFIL's doctor here thought.

If there are any changes I'll let the hive know. I guess this is just one of those pre-wedding bumps (in a brides as I mean), but I'm glad everyone is seriously ok. Thanks again!

@da3lyn: Thank you so much! His name is Ray.

@pb and j: Thank you.

FH just told me that FFIL might not be coming to the wedding now :/ Honestly my mom and I had a feeling all along he wouldn't come....he kept telling FH he was coming but FBIL and FSIL kept saying he told them he wasn't coming. I'm going to be bummed if he doesn't come because I know FH wants him there even though he is not that close with his dad, but come on...it's his dad! You know?

Please don't get me wrong, I know his health comes first and if that is truly and issue I understand why he wouldn't attend.

@bakerella: Thanks. I actually asked FH how he feels about it and he said that he should be there since it's his wedding and that FBIL is willing to drive him and his doctor said it would be fine to travel. I told FH I agree with him, but I don't want him to stress if he decides not to come and that all I want is for him to be happy.

Our wedding is actually 8 hours from our home and FFIL has some knee problems so he keeps saying that it is so far for him to drive...he started saying this over a year ago. He kept telling FH he would come but said to the other sibilings that he is not (not an "if" he doesn't come, just he wasn't coming at all). He is closer with FBIL and FSIL just not FH. Also if he stays behind no family will be here if he would need assistance in some way (all other relatives are out of state). FFIL was already planning on coming down right before the wedding when the rest of us leave Sunday, which we are all fine with. A lot of the guests are FFIL's sisters and their families which I'm sure he would be happy to see.

It's just a hard situation. I honestly understand that one's health must come first, so I get that. All I can do is support FH and be there for him as best I can.

@bakerella: FH is actually over there right now!  FBIL still lives at home and hangs out (drinks) with FFIL alot so I'm sure he's talked to him over and over about it. The one aunt that is coming is really close with FFIL so I'm sure she would be disapointed if he didn't come as well. I also don't understand why a parents wouldn't come to to their own childs wedding even if they aren't close. It's just so weird to me. I do find it ironic that FFIL said all along that he wasn't coming but it is what it is. I'm glad your DH's family member was able to attend! What a happy ending.

@crebre80: I'm not sure. Like I said FH doesn't have that good of a relationship with his father but I'm sure he said something regarding us wanting him there, otherwise FFIL would have flat out told us he wasn't coming. FH does so much for his parents and they haven't done anything for the wedding (which is fine), it would just be nice for them both to be there and support their son. I know if it was his mom FH would be going NUTS right now! (I'm sure he still is but if it was FMIL he would probablly be crying or something).

I just wanted to update. FH's father is NOT coming to the wedding.

We just got home from his parents house where we were informed that he was not coming. Where was FFIL? At the BAR drinking. He can't drive and see well (FBIL was willing to stay behind and take him to the wedding later in the week) so he walked to the bar. Ugh! Obviously he's well enought to drink. Oh and he couldn't even tell his son himself that he wasn't coming to his wedding!

FMIL also said something about FFIL doesn't see the point in going and spending the money...Umm he wouldn't have to pay a dime because FH and I already paid everything regarding their lodging and my parents and us paid for the wedding. My mom was also feeding these people for all but 3 nights so it's not like it would cost him more than staying home.

I'm upset because when we say to our baby that "there you are in mommy's tummy" and he/she responds by saying "Where's Grandpa?" What do we say?! He just didn't feel like coming? I guess I'm having a hard time understanding this because it would take something major for my parents to miss their childs wedding.

I'm just very frustrated and hurt for FH. I know he is hurting right now but is trying not to let it get to him. I could tell by the questions he kept asking his mom and then he made the comment about lets see how long he stays at the bar if he doesn't have money and how he is able to still drink.

@pansyshell:

that's sad.  I'm sorry.  It seems like some people are just too selfish?  IDK. I feel bad for your FH.

@rlsulli1598@verizon.net: That's basically what my mom said..."He has priorities". I feel bad for him too...

@MissAsB: Thanks.. I'm sorry for FH. I know he's not close to his dad but it's his dad and his other siblings are and are going to be there. FH kept saying how all his dad's sisters are coming and that the reason why is so they could see him and now he wont be there.