- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Ok, so that’s a little dramatic, but I have found myself repeating “if they don’t like it, they don’t have to come!” too many times tonight.
FH and I mailed out our invites Monday. Since then, we’ve heard from friends, coworkers and my family just how beautiful they were and they were so excited. Nothing from FH’s family.
Then, he gets a text from his not-so-dear brother complaining that he didn’t get a guest invite. FH calmly responded that we were over our venues capacity of people as it is, so only married or engaged couples were invited as a couple. BIL isn’t even casually dating anyone. He responds “interesting because the first one was for me and a guest”.
The “first one” he’s referring to is our STD that was sent to him and his fiancé 7 months ago! They broke up 2 weeks after they were mailed. FH explained to him again about the married/engaged only, and BIL just tells him that he wasn’t with his fiance at the time and that it specifically stated he got to bring a guest.
Seriously, BIL? yes, your STD was probably the only one I scribbled ‘and you get to bring a guEst!’ across. How on earth could I forget? This is our day. We have paid for the entire thing, and all he’s done the entire engagement is complain about how the whole thing is so inconvenient for him. Dont argue with us over the details of OUR party, which WE’ve paid for. The only reason BIL was invited himself was to keep the boat from rocking. We certainly don’t want him to bring a random stranger with him to bring the mood down. The day isn’t about you, BIL, roll with the punches here.
Then, we get a call from Future Father-In-Law. Apparently FH’s adult cousin doesnt understand why her teenage daughter wasn’t listed on her invite, nor why we listed 2 seats reserved for her and her husband instead of 3, because of course they are bringing teenager with them. So, FH explains to Future Father-In-Law that again we’re over capacity, and its an adult reception. There will be no children. Even if she’s a teenager, it still won’t be an appropriate party for a kid. And, once we make an exception for her, it will just start getting out of control.
Shortly after that quick convo, Future Father-In-Law calls us back. FFIL’s sister, the complainy cousins mother, has offered to send us $100 so teenager can attend. DO THESE PEOPLE NOT GET IT?! We can feed an extra person. We can’t have a teenager running around our self serve bar, we’re liable for that. We can’t make an exception and invite your kid because you’re being whiney, especially considering we’ve only met teenager TWICE!
i don’t know bees, I think it might just get worse from here…