Post # 1
This is my FI’s second marriage ( married x 12 yrs). It was his decision to get divorced r/t his ex’s spending habits, etc. There are still amicable. I honestly don’t think she really gets why they got divorced. This is my first marriage.
Im having a hard time with knowing he’s experienced things that we’ve e xperienced with someone else at an earlier time. I’m ready to be married x 13 yrs…
Is there anyone else experiencing the same thing? If so, how do you deal with it?
Post # 3
Mr. 99 was a second time around husband who thought he had it all figured out, but every marriage is different…so let him THINK he gout this part handled, you’ll still surprise him, I promise.
Post # 4
My fiance was married before too (only for a year or so, but still), whereas I was not. I used to have a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that he must’ve felt like he wanted to spend his whole life with that woman too when they got married, just like he feels with me… We talked about it a few times. I decided to move past those feelings. Because if I dwell on them I still can’t wrap my mind around them 100%, but I know my fiance loves me more than anything, and I trust that how he feels about me is special. 🙂
Post # 5
My husband was married (it lasted just over a year) before we were married. I totally understand some of what you are feeling. One positive thing to focus on is that your FI does want to make a long term commitment. It bothered me a bit at first that he had these experiences prior to meeting me, but then I realized that the experiences we have together are unique to us.
He loves you. Focus on the good.
Post # 6
He is a different man now older, wiser, and appreciates what it means to have someone who really gets him even when his military behavior creeps in. I dont take it personal because he has been in the military for 24 years so it took some getting use to. He was cheated on so it doesnt bother me that he is doing some of the things he use to do with her.
Our wedding is different in that he is involved 100% and he wants a grand wedding because he didnt before. I cant think about his past because that is exactly what it is HIS PAST. We all have a past and it makes us who we are and we become better people because of it.
I hope you dont allow this to make you sad or make you feel that it is not special because you are. He waited for that special person and he chose you to marry and live the rest of his life with.