FI + Address List = aaaggg!

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Mine was exactly the same!!!  I was like, I just need 4 of your friends addresses for save the dates!!  And he was like I’ll just hand it to them!!  So, now I have to scramble to get addresses for invitations when we should’ve just had them already!!  GAAAH! MEN!

Post # 4
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think this is a universal problem. EVERY SINGLE DAY I have to ask FI for addresses. The response is always the same “oh yeah I’ll have the list done this weekend”… still… waiting…

Post # 6
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73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

So my FI gave me his list, including his  “uncle Bert” . I sent the list to my FMIL and she politely called me to ask why her brother was not on the list and who “Uncle Bert” was. Turns out my FI forgot his Uncles name, But he reminded him of “Bert and Ernie” so he just wrote down “Uncle Bert”.

 

 

Post # 7
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545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@renwoman:  I relied on my MIL and SIL to get his families addresses, knowing fully that DH wouldn’t be able to get it together to get the addresses himself. He hand-delivered invites to his coworkers and friends. 

Post # 8
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7195 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@renwoman:  Why do *you* need to get the addresses? Give him 6 blank invites and say “Here they are, deal with it”. If those 6 people don’t get invited, it’s your fiance’s problem.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oh dear god this was my life the past three weeks…well more liek MONTHS. Want to know how I handled it? I put my laptop on the other side of his computer desk and loudly made phone calls happily for six hours straight until every single person on my list had responded. He looked over and said “Wow, babe! Great job! You’ve got almost EVERYONE!” and I said “No. I have EVERYONE on MY side. And that’s what happens when you sit down and DO something you say you’re going to do. I have emails going, facebook messages, and texts and I’m calling anyone else. It’s not hard– it’s just something you have to SIT and do!”

As I was up in his shiz for six hours, he found the time to send out some fb messages ahaha. His step mom also had emailed me telling me she’d love to help. So, I gave her the list and never told FI so that I could get them done on time but also force him to do it as well.

When we had to address the save the dates, I did it all by hand and almost lost my mind. He kept asking me why i was so stressed and saying they “didn’t have to be perfect”. I wanted to set people on fire. People named FI.

It makes me feel better to know I’m not the only one… I actually cried and asked him if he wants to actually get married because he hasn’t done any of the things I’ve asked him to do without me nagging and prodding (which means I still have to stress out about them). I think men just don’t understand that there’s a strict timeline we need to follow so we don’t get behind because we’re only one person and it’ll all come down on us.

I also have a theory that if EVERYONE asked the groom all the questions they ask the bride on a daily basis (aka every conversation starts with “How’s the wedding planning coming along?!?!”), maybe they’d understand. In my experience, FI forgets everything next week and just doesn’t think about plans until they’re upon us. They have zero idea how to plan for anything that far out and don’t understand that a wedding is NOT a last minute endeavor. At least that’s what I tell myself hahaha

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@renwoman:  Hahaha. I have been having trouble with this too so you know what I did? If he is friend’s with these people on FB I have sent them a message asking for their address (even some I have never formally met yet). I especially did this if the person was part of a couple as I had no problem messaging the woman to ask the address. It has worked wonders! Sometimes if you want something done you just have to do it yourself. Haha.  

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