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I have been questioning my dress back because my biggest worry is that my FI won't like it. I told him about it and he said, "I will love it because you are wearing it." I don't think we have the same taste but after he said that I haven't questioned it again.
I agree with the previous poster. Wear what you feel good in and once he sees it on you, he'll think it's gorgeous.
he may have some preconceived notions of wedding dresses?
i think he will be overwhelmed regardless, because you'll be gorgeous, as long as it's something you like! Go for it!!
yea he told me he would think I was beautiful even if I walked down the aisle in a white tee. LOL. But still... I can't help feeling like I'm letting him down somehow lol. I know I should just shake this feeling though.
You'll look better to him if you feel amazing in your dress. Wear what you love, and he'll love it on you!
Someone should totally get married in a crisp white tee.
I wouldn't worry about it - seeing you all gorgeous in the dress is totally different than seeing a dress by itself. I love all sorts of dresses that would never look good on me, and there's just nothing I can do about it. Better to wear something flattering than a pretty dress that swallows you alive.
My FI has kept mum on the opinions. He was gung-ho about getting married until the planning officially began, and now he's wide-eyed and very "I'm really glad *you're* planning all of this!"
Before I bought my dress I asked if my FH had a preference. He had no idea. So I went ahead and bought my "dream" dress which is very simple and not at all a ballgown or typical wedding dress. I think the dress is gorgeous even though there is no beading/tulle/poof etc. It is very me and perfect for the outdoor country wedding we'll be having. A few weeks ago we were watching Bride Wars. My dress (in the front only) is very similar to the dress that Anne Hataway was wearing. My FH said, "That doesn't even look like a wedding dress!" I sucked in my breath and had a brief panic attack but then I let it go. I know that when he sees me come down the aisle, he'll love the dress no matter what!!
I agree with the other posters- he'll love whatever you choose. If you want to help him see that a ballgown will swallow your tiny frame (and I'm also petite, so I had similar feelings about wearing such a poofy dress), you could take him dress shopping with you and intentionally try on a few big poofy dresses, so he can see that if you wear something like that, all he'll see is the dress, rather than you. Just a thought!
I think he'll love you in the dress you pick which flatters your body. Boys don't always get that each style does not look the same on "real" people as they do on models. I think it is harder for them to picture your particular features in the dress so while he may like the princess style on the model, Iäm sure he'll love you in a mermaid style when he sees how much it flatters your petite figure!
My FI also has much different ideas on what I should wear. He continues to show me very sexy styles where the bodice is very tight and low-cut. Everything I see, he dislikes. I have sworn off showing him any ideas. I know he will love anything I wear on the day of our wedding.
Guys don't understand the concept of "the style doesn't work on my body type", because they don't have the selection in clothes that we do. It either fits them, or it doesn't. And even if they see a horribly fitting gown on us, they still think it's amazing.
Personally, I have enough things to stress about. No matter what he says now, he'll be amazed when you walk down that aisle, no matter what you wear. So pick your dream dress and breathe. :)
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I showed pics of dresses to my FI, too, and he also loved the traditional, poofy, princessy gowns. He felt a wedding dress should look like that. It looked awful on me! I would feel more self conscious wearing something that monstrous than I would anything else. Guys just don't get it. I'm sure once he sees them on YOUR body, he will love it.
Have you tried a slim A-line? Those are a 'little' poofy but not at all like a ballgown.
Have you explained it to him the way you explained it to us? That alone might be enough!
I actually just went wedding dress shopping with a good friend who felt the same way - about 5'2" and tiny, and she said that the big dresses 'wore her' instead of her wearing the dress. She wanted something really less traditional.
The funny thing is this though - when I saw her selections on the hanger, I thought they were sleek, stylish, and gorgeous, but not 'traditional' bridal. Then, when she had them on with the veil and the jewelry and her happy bride self, it was like "Poof-voila!" she was 100% a beautiful bride! Maybe he is having the same disconnect of seeing them on the hanger and not realizing how different they will look on you on that day.
On a side note, my SIL is the tiniest little thing I have ever seen. Not quite five feet and a triple zero or whatever. She wanted the big poofy dress anyways and, when it was properly fitted and tailored to her size, she looked completely amazing. So if you do want to look at 'big' dresses, remember that the larger models they have in the store are not the same as a dress that has been fitted for your petite frame.
I don't think you need to worry about it too much. It is very normal to have a difference in opinions especially on the style of dress because us women tend to know more about what makes us comfortable or what looks great on our body types. And since you said you are pretty petite a poofy dress would swallow you up.
I was in the same position though. My FI wanted me more in a slim body hugging style dress but that was just not happening. I am a pretty curvy girl with some curves in the wrong places and the last thing I wanted to do was grab attention to those areas. So I chose a ballgown type dress that sucks me in but hides most of my imperfections. In the end I won 
Girls don't worry about your FI! This is your dress... your dream... he will love you in whatever you are wearing. Leave it a surprise for him.
I agree with the previous posters that you know your body type and what will look good better than your fiance does. Plus, he will find you stunning and bridal on the big day, no matter what, so don't worry about that.
I actually had a friend whose fiance accidentally saw a picture of her in her already purchased dress at a fitting and was a little shocked, because like you're fiance he was expecting a poufy ball gown and she's wearing a long, beaded sheath with a dropped waist. I think that when you see that type of dress over and over again on tv and in movies, it starts seeming like the only type of bridal dress to these guys. But we know better.
Anyway, my friends said that in the end she's glad he saw the dress, because now he knows to expect something different and will be over the shock of her choosing somethign different.
Have you tried the dresses on?
I am not big by any means and my guy friends were urging me to go with a simple silk sheath because the ballgown would "swallow me up". But then I went to try on dresses and I found the perfect ballgown and it didn't swallow me at all. It was nice and fitted and low on the shoulers, strapless with a straight top, the sweetheart will make you look very short. Also, this is just a personal opinion but I think having a flare at the way bottom of the dress (mermaid) is to draw attention way down to the bottom of the dress and when the eyes track up they don't go far. I'd say pick a dress with an amazing neckline.
I am 6 inches taller than both my sisters but just as small. My older sister wore a ball gown for her wedding, Since her husband was only 4 or 5 inches taller than her, she didn't look to be her 5' self.
I threw a few websites the FH's direction to get a feel for what he liked and he happily sent me back Jcrew bridesmade dress photos and a few sheath photos from Nordstrom. I went with the big dress because it is what I felt amazing wearing.
That being said, it is your wedding. Wear what you want.
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My fiance is afraid to comment on any wedding dresses because he doesn't want to say the wrong thing. :) The bottom line is, grooms don't know the difference between A-line, mermaid, trumpet, or ball gown. He will just see you in a beautiful dress. The rest is all greek to him. Or at least to my groom. :) I've been afraid he'd want me in something a little more...form fitting. But I've decided I can save that for the honeymoon. :)
My FI and I had different ideas too. His first requests to me were nothing "crunchy" and nothing over the top... So, then after a while, I was showing him dresses online or in magazines and the "crunchy" ones, he kind of liked. Then, after I bought my dress, he tells me he hates the mermaid look - Oops! I bought a mermaid style dress - and I figure, tough... he doesn't realize what looks best on me and it all won't matter the day of the wedding anyways.
Wear what you love and what makes you feel good. If it's poofy, or mermaid, or crunchy or whatever!
My fiance and I have completely different ideas too. I wanted the big ball gown and he wanted the slim, silloutte dress. They just looked horrible on me. I'm 5'8" and "curvy". I tried to compromise and when i showed him the dress, he said it looked horrible. Luckliy I hadn't bought it yet, so I went with my gut and got what I wanted - a simple - poofy - princessey dress. He normally says he loves my style - the way I dress, so I'm sure in the end he'll like it no matter what.
When I showed my fiance a sample of dresses with mine included he liked them all in a guy way. "That one's ok. That one's cool. That one is weird". The only dress he had a strong reaction to was mine. His initial reaction was that he didn't like it... but the thing is that it was one of those dresses that calls attention to itself. He hadn't seen it on me, and simply was reacting to the attention grabbing element.
Let's face it, unless he's a hard core fashionisto, I think you are going to be fine with whatever you think works best :)
UGH. Men. They just don't get it, and I agree with the poster who mentioned that clothes either fit them or don't. Personally, my FI doesn't get to know or see anything about my dress or accessories (I even have a separate wedding folder for dresses, veils, hair styles, makeup, etc.) and I'm VERY insistent on not seeing him until the wedding. And sorry, guests who don't like that they have to wait for us to take pictures - enjoy your free food and drinks for an hour and get over it.
Bottom line is you know what works best for you and ultimately when he sees you in whatever kind of dress you end up choosing, you will take his breath away. Get what you want!
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let me give you an example from my FI;
We went to a wedding recently and my friend wore a gorgeous vintage style lace dress. I asked him his thoughts, he said it was nice... translating this 'nice' in man talk, he meant that it was beautiful and he liked it.
Recently i asked his opinion on a dress from a bridal mag. The dress had a little lace on bodice and organza full skirt. I ask him same questiion..... his reply; ' i dont like it'.
i asked why...'hmm... i dont like the lacey bit...' i then pointed out that my friends dress was ALL lace.... i got an 'oh.....'. End of convo.
In short, guys THINK they have an idea of what is 'nice' but in reality, i think 90% would find all dresses on their wives2be gorgeous. With the hair done, make-up, accessories.... i think most of them wouldnt know whats hit them!!
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When your day comes and he sees you walk down the aisle it truly wont matter if you are in a white tee because all he will see is the love he has for you and how beautiful you are, not the dress you are wearing.
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I'm about your size and I totally agree about being swallowed by the dress. I'm sure your FI has no idea what would really look awesome on you, and when he sees you he'll be absolutely wow-ed. It's a good comic stress relief to imagine actually wearing most things my FI thinks would look great on me, but he always things I look amazing. Do not worry about this at all, he will think you are beautiful.
My FI doesn't even know the color family of my dress (b/c I've considered any color), and he made a comment the other day about not liking teal. All of a sudden he flipped out and was like, "I mean, except if it were like someone's wedding dress, especially yours...then I think it would be amazing..." (my dress is ivory, but it was hilarious).
You will be lovely, your FI will be floored...do not worry about this at all. Wear the dress you feel great in.
My fiance feels strongly that wedding dresses that have buttons down the back are really stupid looking, and they look like the bride's trying desperately to draw attention to her ass. This came up after I bought my dress. Complete with buttons down the back, naturally. Oh well, I'm hoping that he'll like them in real life. Bridal mag photos do not look like real life.
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You girls are lucky that your guys care! My husband (we're finally getting around to the wedding that i've always wanted after 3 years) and he doesn't give a rat's behind!
But as we all know, weddings are all about us anyways. Go with what you want! I wish my husband would put in some imput, but I had him look at a dress online, and he just said ok cool, whatever you want!! It drives me insane. He has not had any input for anything other than he wants to wear a zoot suit, which sounds like fun to me!
lol guys are so clueless! I always tell him how lucky he is that all he has to do is make sure the suit fits LOL!
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So I showed my fiance pictures of various dresses online...just to get a feel for what he likes...and apparently..he likes the realllllllly poofy, reallly princessy, full out pick up type of dresses.
While I do sometimes have dress envy when I see girls in gorgeous ballgown dreses...there is a veryyyyy big reason as to why I am not wearing one. I am 4'11-5 feet and 100 lbs...ok. Those gowns, even in petite sizes swallow me up.
So I have been leaning towards trumpet and mermaid dresses...and fiance doesn't seem to like those style dresses (because it's not princessy enough? lol).
Have any of you girls encountered this situation with your fiance? on the one hand, I want to pick something that he loves, but on the other hand...it's just not going to work lol.