- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Just a little rant to get it out of my system.
So my Fi and I are paying for the wedding all on our own. I don’t have a dad, and my mum can barely take care of herself so no help there. Fi’s parents have the $$ to help, but they feel like a wedding is the bride’s job so they’re not helping us. This makes FI angry and stressed but what can you do? I’m used to not having money so I’m trying to tell him to let it go, and that we’ll make it work.
Our budget started at $5,000.00 but we had to push it up to $8,000 because even with all our cuts, five grand was too limiting.
We got some great deals on venues, cut out the cost of flowers as I’m craftng (crocheting/sewing felt) all the bouquets/bouts/center pieces etc. I’m getting my dress from dressilyme and i’m doing my own make up, got a friend to do hair etc etc. The band I wanted was to much, so i said ok to a cheaper one. I feel like we’ve cut and saved on everything!
Well, the last big hurdle is the photographer. And FI has set a limit of $1,000.00 and I’m having a really hard time finding someone (who’s pics arn’t terrible) for under a grand. I found a women who’s pics are gorgeous, who includes an engagement session for $1,200.00+tax and I really like her, but FI has said no.
My first choice photographer was $3,200.00 for 4 hours, which i obviously said no to! So I think i’ve done a great job in finding someone 2 grand lower!! With how much saving and effort were putting into this wedding, i don’t want to completely cheap out on photo’s or else what is the point in even hiring one! We could just get friends/family to take pics!
What stresses me out the most, is that I’m the one who has to email and inquiry with everyone for everything. When I brought that up, FI replied that because he is providing most of the money for the wedding savings fund (he makes twice as much as me and has the opportunity to do over time, i do not!), it’s my job to do all the actual work! I felt hurt by that comment as it’s dismissive of all the money I am putting forward. Whether i make as much as him or not, i’m still scapring and saving every penny i got! Also, i’m doing a TON of DIY , which is my time and effort! BAH! It’s also very frusterating to have him shoot down people and ideas i’m bringing forward when he himself is not emailing/finding alternative options.
Bah I say!