Post # 1
We have already gone way over budget with our wedding and we are living as frugally as possible right now. We didnt do anything for Valentines Day, or birthdays, or Christmas or anything, because all of our extra money is going to the wedding. Also, we have been together for 3 years and living together for 2. We already feel like we are married.
So. that being said, we both feel like the gifts for each other is not necessary. Anything I would be able to afford to buy him would not be that great, and vice versa. It wouldnt be the type of thing we would show our grand childen (such as sentimental jewellry or anything).
Is it weird not to give each other gifts? Or is anyone else in this same predicament and just giving small gifts? Any ideas would be helpful!
Post # 3
We dont do gifts to each other too. I actually think it’s weird to “give” each other something when we’ve combined money and can easily buy whatever we want. We don’t really want stuff that often, so trying to give a gift is nearly impossible cause we truely dont want anything so it’d just be a waste of our money.
Post # 4
Eh, I didn’t even realize the bride/groom got each other gifts until I came on the bee. We didn’t get each other anything, we figured marrying each other is kind of a huge deal enough as it is. We also didn’t get each other Christmas gifts since we’d just gotten married, and chose to focus on stuff for our friends/family.
They aren’t necessary, don’t worry about adding yet another thing to your list!
Post # 5
We’re not officially doing gifts… but I bought a cake topper that’s going to be a surprise gift for him. Or “us”, really, since we’ll keep it. He just doesn’t know about it.
Post # 6
@katiee0707: We talked about this too. In the end, we decided to give each other something but that was more because my Darling Husband is a HUGE gift-giver (as in, he loves to give people gifts) and he couldn’t imagine not giving me a present. lol
That being said, you don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to. I’m not really sure it’s even tradition, per say. I think that if you want to do it, go ahead, but if you don’t, don’t; it’s no biggie.
Post # 7
We are barely scraping by to pay for this wedding that there isn’t any room for gifts…neither of us feel bad about it either…
Post # 8
my husband and i rarely exchange gifts. even for christmas because we usually do something or go somewhere together so its a “happy christmas/valentines/anniversary honey” and thats it. maybe a nice meal, home or dining out – doesnt matter which. for us its about spending time together
Post # 9
@katiee0707: Girl I’m in the same boat! We skipped Christmas, both birthdays and Valentines to make sure we had enough for a wedding. We are skipping gifts too.
Post # 10
We didn’t give gifts, it’s just an old tradition. But, if I were to give a gift, it would be something very small and funny/meaningful/symbolic. Just something that will make each other smile, that doesn’t cost much, if anything.
Post # 11
I don’t think you need to. We live together as well and our wedding bands will serve as our gifts to each other for the wedding.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone so much for the input! I am feeling much better about this, i didnt want to be doing something completely taboo or something I would regret in 10 years, but it sounds like a BUNCH of people are doing similar things. As PP said, i just dont see the point when we are living together and have a combined bank account. It would probably just be a waste of money really for us. Thanks everyone!
Post # 13
We are in the position of saving up majorly right now for the wedding. What we decided to do was rather than a gift that day we will each plan an activity for us to partake in oN the honeymoon. It will be a total surprise until the day of the wedding when we will write each other a letter someone will give us the morning of And share our gift to each other as well as I’m sure some other thoughts for the day!!
I have no idea what he hhas planned I plan on setting up horseback riding while we are in Ireland on the honeymoon something we’ll remember always
Post # 14
I don’t think living together has anything to do with it. If you don’t want to give each other gifts for any reason, by all means, don’t! I doubt Fiance and I will. We haven’t discussed it.
Post # 15
We’re not doing anything! Our rings are gifts! I’m going to do those “52 things I love about you” with cards.
Post # 16