FI and I work together – who should we invite?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@StL.Ashley:  I apologize but I haven’t had enough coffee yet to focus on your whole entry (I’m a jerk).  My rule of thumb is, if you would tell the person you are looking for another job (a confidante) or invite them to your house, then they deserve an invitation. Anything above and beyond that I think it gets too sticky on where to draw the line. I have several friends at work, only two of which have been to my house, or seen me cry, or heard about my personal life like a true friend, so they are the only ones invited.

Unless you’re having a big wedding where everyone your parents ever met are invited. THen I say give this one to your FI and invite the boss too.  

Post # 4
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

@StL.Ashley:  I think you should just invite the people you want to invite. If you want to invite the women invite them, if you want to invite your fiances department invite them. If  you want them to come invite them. If you don’t want to invite them don’t. I wouldn’t bother to invite your department since you are not close. I’m sure nobody would be offended. 

I wouldn’t worry about them not getting a save the date, being able to afford the flight, or think it’s a gift request. These people are all adults and I am sure at one point some of them have planned a wedding. They can make their own decisions on that. If it’s too expensive for them they can RSVP no. I wouldnt bother making a speech at lunch or anything I’d just ask for their addresses and not worry about it. 

Good luck 🙂 


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