- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
So I know there are times when all of us want to complain about FI, wedding related stuff, or whatever else, but today in particular I’m feeling the need to totally gush.
This is going to be long, and probably disgustingly cute, so feel free to skip it and go to the bottom. But if anybody feels like putting up with a girl who’s in an obnoxiously good mood, feel free to keep reading. 😉
I’m feeling like….. particularly grateful for my FI today. I was walking to the bus stop to catch a ride back to my apartment when I got one of those strange out-of-the-blue happy moments that catch you off guard.
Don’t get me wrong, my FI is far from perfect. He has a hard time when someone disagrees with his opinions, and he can get pretty cranky when things don’t go just how he likes sometimes. Occasionally he uses my things without asking. Every once in a while he’ll leave an empty soda can in my bedroom, and after a fight he has a habit of sulking.
But you know what? That’s ok. Because he makes up for it by being the most sensitive, thoughtful, gentle, kind, selfless man I have ever met.
Last summer, instead of just taking the 3-4 months off between spring and fall semesters, FI busted his BUTT working 40+ hours a week for a painting company, painting the interiors of un-airconditioned houses being constructed in the 85+ degree Florida heat. He did this so he could spend nearly every last dollar of it on my ring. (I had no idea that was happening!)
FI and I have been together for four years now, and two months ago he proposed. According to his mother, they went to eight different jewelers over the course of an entire day because he was SO PICKY about what he liked and what he knew I liked. (Can’t you believe a 21-year-old man actually paid attention to all those obnoxious hints I kept dropping?!) In the end, he couldn’t find anything that was *just right* so he picked out the diamond and setting separately and had it set. He took both his parents along for opinions and advice, and even called my mom to confirm my preferences before actually putting the cash down on the ring he’d picked.
I could write an entire topic on my proposal, but let’s just say it was amazing and thoughtful and I cried. My close friends and family were all there, it’s on video, and he even called up my best friend of 7 years that I hadn’t been able to see for 6 months to make sure she could be there. Afterwards we went to Ybor and made a big party of it at Columbia House.
This summer he took a job that he doesn’t particularly like at all, simply because it paid well, and he’s trying to do everything he can to set himself up to be able to support us after the wedding (we’re both still in school) and to pay for the wedding expenses that our parents aren’t covering. He took the job he doesn’t like because the higher pay would allow me to take classes this summer instead of getting a job, too. The fact that he does this, every day, from 3-11 p.m., makes me feel too loved to put into words.
My roommate is an absolute and total slob. Like, the kind of girl who leaves her belongings all over the living room and dirty dishes in the sink for weeks. Last night I came home from a weekend away to find the kitchen a disgusting mess, and all sorts of flies/gnats/earwigs infesting the kitchen sink/drain/garbage disposal.
FI threw away old food, put dishes in the dishwasher, put baking soda and bleach down the drain before running the garbage dispoal, and scrubbed out the sink, while I cleaned off the counters and tidied up the living room. Without being asked. He doesn’t even live there!
A few weeks ago I hadn’t had time to clean my bathroom. He went in to use the bathroom while I was getting ready to go somewhere, and while he was in there, scrubbed out the toilet and wiped down the counter for me.
I’ve seen his own bathroom, ladies. It’s nothing spectacular. He keeps mine cleaner than he leaves his.
If I don’t want to ride the bus back from class, he will drive to campus and pick me up for lunch. All I have to do is text.
A few years ago, he took general chemistry for his major (Engineering) and ended up not doing that well in the class- which was fine, because he was only studying to be an engineer because of his parents. It ended up working out for the best really, because his passion is architecture.
Well, now I’m taking Chemistry. He has a decent general knowledge of chemistry, and does as much as he can to help me with my homework every week. Instead of competing with me or being jealous that I may do better in a class than he did, he tells me he WANTS me to be better, that he thinks I’ll understand it more easily, and, in his words, wants me to “kick ass.” When he can’t help me with something, he gets his roommate (a chemistry major) to explain it to me.
He cleans out my car for me. When the tank gets low he goes and fills it up.
He watches my tv shows.
He tells me that my dog is cute.
Last November, his sister found a 6-week-old kitten under a car. His family was going to take it to the shelter the next day. I begged and begged and begged him to keep it at his apartment for me since my roommate wouldn’t agree to have a cat put on the lease. (I’m such a sucker for baby animals…) The cat (Bruce) is now 10 months old, and FI feeds him, cleans out his litter box, sleeps with him, and plays with him when I’m not there. Bruce is quite a character and is now very much loved by FI and his roommates. 🙂
I love this man, I love this man, I love this man. I would marry him wearing a black trash bag, under an overpass, with braided twine wedding rings and cockroaches as our witnesses (and good Lord I hate cockroaches!).
I could literally go on for the next hundred years, which hey, I suppose I get to because i’m marrying the guy. <3 But I will spare you all the rest of my rambling, even though I know I’ve gone on far too long already.
SO, in honor of our FI’s, I propose we dedicate this as a FI Appreciation board. Feel free to post all the things you love about your man, especially if planning stress is getting to you. I can definitely say that this post has been a huge refresher for me- I guess it never hurts to remember what all the planning is for in the first place. <3