FI blew job interview…advice?

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 3
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I will not be harsh on you or your FI because you both realize that honesty is the reason he didn’t get the job.  And, you know that honesty and an explanation of the situation would’ve gotten him further than the lie did.  Sadly, even if he called the interviewer to tell him why he lied, the fact that he lied is still thereband the trust level is broken and irrepairable. 

It is always difficult to be stress-free when someone is unemployed.  I was in your shoes (with the unemployed FI) but eventually he found a job which led to a promotion and bigger/better things.  Just encourage him to keep looking, be calm with him, and most importantly do not hold this over his head.  When he goes on his next interview, remind him to be honest about the last job and explain the circumstances rather than lie about it.  More than likely, the person who interviewed him for the last job would’ve been understanding about the situation and, if this is such a niche business, you can bet that the guy interviewing him probably already knew about the last situation and the lawsuit as people in niche industries usually know others and information like that travels through the grapevine. <br /><br />Patience is key and encourage him to find a job, even if it’s not what he wants, and to keep looking.  You can always quit one job in favor of another.  God knows my man is constantly job searching for bigger and better!  Good luck to you, hon!

Post # 4
1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your FI needs to apply to jobs that aren’t his dream job and maybe aren’t even in his field.  It sucks, but it’s life.  If jobs in his business are hard to come by, then he needs to expand his horizons and be okay with doing something that’s not ideal or doesn’t pay as much if that’s what he has to do to make ends meet.

I think you have to accept that you may have a long-ish engagement until your FI gets back on his feet.  Focus on paying the bills and support your FI as much as you can.  I’m sure he learned a valuable lesson from this unfortunate situation, and it will still sting to bring it up so I guess just be supportive and kind and put wedding stuff on the back burner.

Post # 5
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Anony4326: I might be missing something but if your FI got fired for lying (per your clarifying comment) and then lied in an interview process, then he might be seen as a liar because he’s been lying. 

He might need to start over, from the ground up. I’m sorry. It sucks. As a hiring manager, I’d be skeptical because usually it’s not a candidate’s first rodeo and he’s acting as if he’s fresh out of uni. Is he able to volunteer and build a portfolio that shows consistently good judgement and truthfulness?

Post # 6
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Wow, this really sucks.  I don’t blame you for feeling upset and you shouldn’t blame yourself either.  It’s a natural reaction to something like this.  I’m mad he lied too!  What a stupid decision.  The logic doesn’t even make sense because if he listed the job on his resume at all, you have to assume they’re going to call the former boss.  Generally when you’re fired, you don’t list that job on your resume at all.  Hopefully, he learned his lesson and won’t make the same mistake again.  I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

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