- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
oK so I have a friend that I have become close with over the past couple of years. We talk almost daily. My FI doesn’t like her because she decided to do something very shall we say stupid, risky, and not very lady like. He is big on personal character. I never really thought much of the character of my friends until I met him. He isn’t the type to look for the bad in people or things to nit pick about but if he is confronted with such behavior he will let it be known he doesn’t like it. Anyhow, now he can’t stand her. I have made it clear he will not dictate who I am friends with. But now I wish I had stopped talking to her years ago and had not invested so much of myself into our friendship. It has gotten to the point where people assume we are together on the phone or hanging out together if they can’t reach me. People assume she is my BFF. She is not. She just seems to envade my space and take up my air. She doesn’t stop by unannounced or anything like that. As a matter of fact, she has only driven to my house like 2 times in the years we have been “friends”. We live only 20 minutes from each other.
She has been a negative nancy for a long time now. I can’t tell her anything without her judgement. I can’t confide in her without judgement or hear the “if I were you I wouldn’t do that or I would do this” comment. She says she would never date a guy like my FI because he has bad credit (she has assumed this because I refused to demand a copy of report while he was overseas). She is negative about everything! We are moving out of state soon and she assumes this is because he wants to knock me up so no one will want me! WTF. She tells me that I should stay in my hometown and if he loved me he would stay here with me. Um, he is trying hard to avoid another deployment. He has had 3 already. My friend also told me that I should want him deployed because of the extra money. Are you freakin serious? She is such a money hungry person that almost everything boils down to the dollar. If we want to hang out it is alwasy about what she wants to do because of cost. I am not talking about expensive things. And she has no kids or husband and makes a good wage. If she is not interested we don’t do it. I feel that I am always waivering for her. Basically from everything she has ever told me about her thoughts of my relationship with my FI, I don’t feel like inviting her to our wedding. As a matter of fact I am not. I have already decided I will not mention any wedding related things to her.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to politely tell her she is not invited? and do you think I should end this friendship and if so how?