Post # 1
So I’m kinda frustrated with my mother ATM. We started talking about money, and i explained to her about how it seems every paycheck, were broke due to bills and such. She THEN said, “you sure he can take care of you? You sure he can provide you, like we do…”. I just gave her this look, I was shocked she would even say those words. I have no doubt in my mind if he can take care of me. Hes a hard worker and has a crappy job. He does what he can. And since I ATM dont have a job, yeah.. sure.. things will be tough… Im not expecting anything handed to us. LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS GOING TO BE RAINBOWS AND UNICORNS. BUT! That doesnt change my judgment on him. THAT doesnt make me think he will never give up…
I’m just.. ugh… kinda mad at her ATM. >:/
Post # 3
That must be super frustrating. FI parents are like that sometimes. It can be really irritating when you are trying to vent about being frustrated and mom or dad takes it as its ok to start bashing on your SO.
Post # 4
your mom said – “you sure he can take care of you? You sure he can provide you, like we do…”
That sounds old-fashioned… ignore the comment! In the days of your mom, it’s common to make sure the husband brings home the bacon and the mom stays home with the kids…
Post # 5
I don’t know is it wrong for a mother to worry about her child?
Post # 6
I would refrain from discussing money with your mother any more
Post # 7
@armychica06: Right. It sort of sounds like she’s using what your’e just thinking of as a vent to twist it around to imply the FI won’t be able to provide for you. Which, I’m not sure of your relationship and outlook with him, but I look at it as we provide for each other and the future.
Regardless, not giving your mom ammunition should be helpful in the future.
Post # 9
@cassandra102012: I wouldn’t take it too personally, parents just want the best for their kids and they dont want to see them hurting or struggling, I think it came from a good place but it just came across wrong. If you say he is a hardworker then I don’t think you have anything to worry about 🙂 it’s when they are missing that drive that you have to worry.
Post # 10
I think it’s natural to worry about money, even though she probably didn’t word it the right way in that he should be “providing” for you. Money problems can wreck a marriage like no other. Often times parents can interpret “We’re tight on money and live paycheck to paycheck” as “The person I’m marrying doesn’t know how to manage their finances.”
Don’t worry about it. You know your FI is a hard worker. My husband works his ass off, but the first 3 years were a really horrible struggle for us because he couldn’t find a decent job. It’s tough out there.