Post # 1
We have been talking about marriage for the last year so his proposal a couple months ago was kinda expected lol.
Well, we had picked the date of June 7th, 2014.. For no reason aside from wanting a summer wedding.
Last weekend my FI went to get a haircut and he said he was talking to the hairdresser about our wedding and she mentioned that a year and a half engagment was a long time considering how long we’ve been discussing marriage.. So he comes home and tells me he wants the wedding to be this year and in July instead of June.
Honestly I’m okay with this. We are having a small backyard wedding anyway so we dont need a lot of time for planning. I think mostly the realization of everything just hit me hard.
I went from having over a year to procrastinate and not really think about stuff to soon, to BAM I’m getting married in FIVE MONTHS.
My FMIL actually left me a voicemail the other day saying “fve months? This is your soon to be mother in law….. Five fucking months?!?” haha.
I’m really happy, just startled by the realization. I think I’m just looking for some words of encouragement from all you Bees who are also planning a wedding in a short amount of time OR bees who have been planning and are now entering the last few months till the wedding. Plus I needed someone to talk to and you girls are always helpful for that 🙂
Post # 3
haha…I love your FMIL’s response!!
Post # 4
Oh my gosh, good luck! That’s crazy! But congratulatons, and your FMIL sounds like a hoot!
Post # 5
Haha, I love your FMIL already! It’s going to be a whirlwind few months for you, girl. But I know you can pull it off!
Post # 6
Love the response!
Youll be fine 😀 I’ve done most of our planning late January this year for our May wedding.
Post # 7
Ha ha ha, we did that, too! We went from 5/10/14 to 5/11/13 over Thanksgiving weekend… So 17 months to 5 months! It was pretty intense… But do-able!
Post # 8
@Milo: Ahhh I wanted a may wedding but my birthday is in may.. As is my fathers.. And my cousins.. Lol. Too much going on in may!
And to everyone who commented on my MIL, she’s hilarious.
Also, thank you guys for the encouragement!
Post # 9
@BrandNewBride: How is your planning working out? What did you decided to focus on the most first? I have a rough draft of my invite list and my sister is almost done designing the invitations (she said she’ll be done with them this weekend.. Can’t wait to show you guys!).
But that’s about it.
Im mostly nervous about finding a dress!
Post # 10
Your FMIL sounds awesome! I think it’s totally do-able to plan your wedding in 5 months especially since you seem to know your setting and theme already. The only thing the deadline may drastically impact is if you need to get a dress ordered since it may take up to a few months then there are the alterations. However, if you’re flexible with vendors and ideas, you can plan a great wedding in 5 months. I would sit down and figure out your budget and what needs to be done ASAP and get the ball rolling on those things now. Then breakdown the rest of the time you have to figure out the rest.
Post # 11
When we got engaged I figured we’d have a longer engagement, but FI didn’t like the idea of that, then we had to make sure it was a month that his siblings wouldnt have midterms or finals, then our venue was booked up in April so all of a sudden we had less than 8 months and we’re having a 90 person catholic ceremony/full dinner reception wedding. Let me tell you its totally doable. When people ask how we did it he always says she hit the ground runnin!! So plan all the big things to get it out of the way so when it’s a month before all you have to do is relax 🙂 good luck!!
Post # 12
@KaitKitten: You can do it! We got engaged on December 9, 2012 and we are getting married on April 27, 2013. We didn’t start planning until after the New Year too. I remember sending his mother an email that said, “120 days to go.”
Post # 13
@KaitKitten: We had a 14 month engagement and I STILL wish it was shorter! It takes however long you have to plan a wedding. I’m so glad you’re OK with it. It will all come together!
Post # 14
@KaitKitten: The photographer and the recpetion site were first
Then I bought my dress
Then we figured out the ceremony site and put down deposits on EVERYTHING.
Everything else just followed after! Once we had the HUGE stuff out of the way (ceremony officiant, reception site, dress and photog), everything else just feels like luxury! So we got really nice vases. While they would have been a “mandatory detail” if we had 17 months to plan, now we have less than 3 months and the pretty vases on Craigslist were the OBVIOUS choice because what else were we going to find in less than 3 months?
I find the shortened time frame VERY liberating, personally.
Post # 15
@BrandNewBride: Sounds like you handled it well!
I guess I have it made easy since its a backyard wedding on my parents farm, plus we aren’t very religious and my mother is an ordained minister so we don’t have to worry about an officiant. Seems like the only BIG detail I have to worry about it the dress. The rest will be a piece of cake!
@MrsRichard: holy cow, you did alot in a short amount of time! I hope I can pull off what you did!
All of you guys rock! I love the positivity flowin in this topic 🙂
Post # 16
@KaitKitten: girl, you have you location and officiant! You’re way good! Now go find that dress 😉