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Would it bother him if you had a wedding party and he didn't?
I think it could be nice! Have him stand by himself at the alter and have your girls walk down the aisle before you and then sit in the front row instead of standing with you!
And then at the reception you could have a sweetheart table and they could sit at a table with their dates.
What do you think?
I don't think it would bother him at all b/c then he wouldn't have to pick anyone.
But not sure if him not having a wedding party would look awkward...like would people be asking where the guys are?
It really doesn't matter. I had four bridesmaids (no MOH though) and my husband didn't have any groomsmen. There was supposed to have a best man but he lives in another country and travel plans fell through during the month before the wedding, there was nothing that could be done about it. My brother did stand up with the rings, but wasn't actually a best man or anything. Nobody seemed to think it was weird, at least they never said anything about it! Just do what makes you happy -- you don't have to follow anyone else's rules!
are there anyone he could have as groomsman, if not a "Best Man"? He could just have 2-3 groomsman and your parties wouldnt have to be balanced... but you'd each still have one.
If he's cool with it, I'd have your ladies present and let him do what he likes to! That way, you're both happy. :)
I went to a wedding once that had many many bridesmaids and the groom had only a best mad (his brother). I didn't think it looked strange at all. Go for it!
He needs to watch "I Love You, Man"! I'm sure he'll relate to the main character. :)
I agree with everyone else--you could have your bridesmaids without having groomsmen. But he could also think about asking relatives stand with him--like an uncle he's always been fond of and would like to honor, or cousins.
@parfait -- so true about "I love you, man"!
I agree, you could either just have your girls up there, or maybe if he has some cousins he could ask just to be groomsmen. He doesn't have to have a best man if he doesn't want to.
We had this same issue. He ended up picking his brother and his best male friend and then I had my favorite male cousing stand up on his side. I know its lame that I'm obsessed with tradition but I really wanted a bridal party. I did not cause any issues for us if it had I probably would have dropped it and just had my BM
for pictures it would look so much better with it even on both sides or close to even, do you have brothers? Two of my brothers and nephew are his groomsmen
We ended up watching I Love You Man...so funny. Yes, I have a brother and he has a brother too but he still says he does not want any. :(
Really, you need to start with whom each of you wants by your side, instead of trying to make the sides even. My wife and I didn't have separate attendants for each of us; my two kids were the attendants, but both of us asked them and we didn't treat them as assigned to one or the other of us. If you want the wedding party to look more "balanced," you could always have some of them stand on his side, even if they are all your attendants.
I'm having the same dilema! Great suggestions here tho. FI doesn't want the headache and sice were having a destination wedding I really don't want my friends to have the extra expense, but if I could afford to pay for their dresses I think Id do it!
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I saw a wedding on tv in which there were no bridesmaids just groomsmen and it looked really nice!
I went to a friend's wedding that had 5 bridesmaids walk up alone, it didn't look strange at all, it was very nice. I didn't even realize the groomsmen were "missing" until we were looking at the pics we took at the wedding and we were like...hey...there were no guys!!
And my other friend, had the same problem at first, but the groom changed his mind because he said he "didn't want ppl to think he had no friends" LOL although I'm sure nobody would have thought that!!
I actually have the opposite problem. My BF (lady in waiting) has 7 best friends and wanted all in our wedding. I wanted friends in my wedding party, but not that many. So we decided to to cut it down and just do family as our wedding party. His nephew is the best man, my sister is MOH, and his 2 sisters are bridesmaids. All of a sudden, BF decided he wanted his boys involved some sort of way.
I'm ok with a lop sided party, but 8 men and 3 girls, I just couldn't see it. So we decided his boys would be honerary groomsmen. Meaning they would walk in and have a reserved row just for them. i have never seen it done, but if it makes BF happy and his boys, I rather do it then have a fight. I know people will wonder what is going on when they walk in, but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to please everyone. I will just take one for the team. LOL!!!
I would want my brother up there, at the very least! We're kinda having the same problem- he doesn't really want anyone up there other than his brother, and I was like "Look, you have these 2 other best friends that would be really, really hurt if you didn't ask them"... I think he'll realize that eventually, but in the mean time, I found out one of them really hates me. I regret encouraging Mr. KM to ask him.
My FI has had a lot of input on the wedding, but when it came to the wedding party, he's not super close with anyone, but he said tell me the # of guys I need and I will get them. If he just doesn't care how many or who stands up that's one thing, but if he really doesn't want anyone, that's another problem. Usually men don't care either way and want the woman happy so we don't complain.... I would at least let him know you want to do a MOH and best man--if he doesn't budge, do what will make you happy and not ruin your wedding day! You don't want to regret anything--I know the same should go for him too, so keep expressing how important it is to you and hopefully he will give in.
my fiance was similar. i had to talk with him about who he would want to have stand there with him. in the end he thought that asking his dad to be his best man was a great idea and his friend and cousin will be from his side and my 2 cousins will be from my side. we weren't going to include my cousins at first, because my fiance also said that he didn't want that many (if any) guys up there with him, but in the end he realized how important having my cousins up there with us was to me (they are like my brothers), so he agreed that it would be nice to include them. i'm sorry that your fiance is being difficult about not wanting anyone up there. i don't understand why guys don't want to make it look like they have friends or people who care about them? lol. i agree with everyone who said that maybe you could express to him how important it is for you to have your brother up there as a groomsman and maybe he'll realize it too about his brother. i just think of it this way, i'm only getting married once and family is so important to me that i want them to be up there to share my special day with me.
My fiance said the same thing about me being his best friend and not really hanging out with any guys... In the end I cut back the number of BMs and he found a couple of guys to stand up there with him, including my brother. We're both happy with the decision so far!
Just an update, I asked my best friend to be my MOH and 2 other friends to be my bridesmaid. And he has not changed his mind...still no one. So I guess that's how it will be.
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So, my fiance considers me his best friend and doesn't really hang out with any guys. He is stressing to even think of anyone as a bestman or even have groomsmen. I would love to have 1 MOH and 2 bridesmaids. Does anyone else have this problem? I'm not sure what to do? Do I forego having the MOH & bridesmaids for him?
Need advise on what to do.