- 3 years ago
Let me start off by saying I am huge on personal hygiene. I shower every morning, wash my hair twice, always washing any clothes I find lying around, constantly keeping deoderant in my bag in case of emergencies…
FI is kind of the opposite. He doesn’t see the need to shower any more than once or twice a week. He’ll happily go three or four days without bathing, and if I gently point out the scent he’ll either spray his clothes or deny he can even smell it. He’ll often tell me that when he was at university he went way longer without showering, so this is nothing. I really don’t think he gets that it’s unpleasant for me. The worst thing is I have to hunt through the house for his dirty socks because he’ll happily wear the same pair for a few days in a row.
I’ve tried being gentle, I’ve tried straight up telling him and each time he dismisses it and says I’m too particular. It’s got me thinking that maybe I am making a fuss over nothing. Perhaps I do object a bit much, maybe men don’t need to bathe so much. But I’m really not sure. It’s not great waking up next to a man who hasn’t bathed for three days.
Any advice, bees?