Post # 1
I just want to cry. I have been upset all night. Last night I started looking to reserve a photographer, as we’re now only 4 months out & still don’t have one. Well, when I was looking, FI was loving the photos on the galleries. But, when I asked which one I should contact first, he wanted to know about the price. So, it looks like most of them are going to be at least $1,100 – $1,200 for 4 hours.
FI said “absolutely not”. WTH??? He said there is no way we can afford that, and he’s not willing to spend that much. He then went on to say he doesn’t think we need someone for 4 hours to take just a few pics of us, us & kids, us & parents. Ummm…..ok….??? Granted, we’re having a very small (30 people) wedding, and it’s very informal. But, honestly, I don’t think 4 hours is even enough time, but I’m willing to try to make-do with that to save on the budget.
I did find one photographer that I just emailed who notes she has a ‘flexible’ plan where you can pay for $250 an hour, with a 2 hour minimum, and you receive an edited CD of all photos and full copyrights. No album, no prints, just the CD. I guess I’ll be fine with that, but even so, to get 4 hours is going to be $1,000. Really, is that much of a savings?
What do I do?
Post # 3
I’d show him a few options ranging in price and package options. $1200 seems like a good rate to me, ours is ridiculously expensive. I do think you can get a lot of good photo’s in 2 hours, given that there aren’t a lot of guests. Maybe the CD option is the best one for you guys? That way you’ll have the CD to make prints with whenever you can comfortably do so. I’m thinking, maybe your FI is just not aware of what the going rate is for a photographer. Also, explain to him how important these images will be. He should realize it will be the only thing you have left, when the day is over. Obviously you still have memories, but I’ve been told that they fade. And there will be moments you might miss, but the photographer gets. I hope he realizes its important!
Post # 4
Mr. Twista said the same thing to me when we were looking for photographers. He didn’t understand what an AMAZING deal my favorite one was offering. Most places around here are a MINIMUM of $2000 and ours is so cheaper! But he still said it was ridiculous to spend so much money. Instead of fighting about it I said that I would pay for it entirely out of my pocket and that was that. He didn’t think we should pay for anyone. He said that when his sister got married his uncle took all the pictures. Well I’ve seen them and you can obviously tell that his untrained uncle took all the pictures. It’s really important to me that I have good professional pictures of our wedding and if paying for it myself is what I have to do then I’ll do it.
Post # 5
Is there any way that you can save up for this? I think it is really important to have a professional taking your pictures so you don’t have to worry about someone missing the important shots or bad cropping. It sounds like a really good deal to have the edited pictures for that price. Is there something else that you could compromise on?
Post # 6
I know we’re going to need to talk about this some more. But, I want to wait until this photographer emails me back. I’m hoping she’s available. I know that I could deal with having her for 4 hours, getting the CD, and getting our prints where we want. This is how we did our engagement pics. But, we had those done locally, and only for $100 for one hour.
I know this is bad, but I also want to see what FMIL says this weekend. She is going to be in town. We are getting married in her hometown, and she has made most of our other recommendations for vendors, so I’m hoping she will see my side on this. Also, FI is kind of a momma’s boy (in a good way) and listens to most everything she says. So, keeping my fingers crossed that we can settle this soon….
Post # 7
I had the same discussion with my FI… Basically I looked for photogs and couldn’t find anyone under $1,000 so the FI took over. We ended up with a super awesome photographer who is just getting started for about half that price! And she was giving away free engagement shoots all through April! If you can find a way to pay for a more expensive photographer… go for it! But, there are cheaper ones out there- you just have to look a little harder 🙂
Post # 8
I had the same sticker shock with photogs that ur FI is having. I just cant see spending that kind of money i think photogs who charge rates like that are greedy.
I ended up looking on CL and found someone who charges $400 for as long as we want including a disc and if we want anything else its extra. She is kinda starting out she had 5-6 weddings on her site and has a nother 5-10 booked this summer so by the time mine comes around she’ll have tons of experience!
Her shots were really good already and it turns out i knew her SO & SIL!
Post # 9
I understand where your coming from. We will have a relatived small wedding as well. (about 70 people). And our photographer is about 1400 with cds and albums. They are really expensive. Did you and your husband come up with a budget? I would look and see what you are willing to give up for the price of the photographer..or you can hire a college student to do photos, a lot of them are trying to beef up their own book to start a business, you might want to take that route. I tried to do that by hiring a girl i went to high school with, but she ended up being non responsive, so i went with a company. I dont know alot of people in the city i live in now, so I dont have a lot of options. Good luck on your plans, and hopefully it gets better. When it comes down to it, you have to sit down with your fiance and discuss how you feel. If it means alot to you, im sure he will try to compromise, and if not. Do it anyways! I dont know how you do things…but i make things happen when my fiance says no. Later on he jumps on the wagon and joins. lol.
Post # 10
Mishelleez, I just wanted to respond to your comment about photographers who charge over $1000 being greedy, because as a photographer (who charges over that), gah–that one hurt. And I understand that it’s nothing personal, but it is rough that the perception is out there and there are so few times when photographers get to actually address that issue that I wanted to try.
The first and most important thing to know is that photography is VERY expensive, not just for the brides, but also for the photographers. Cameras and lenses are astronomical, and more so the better they get. When I was starting out, I worked a full-time job and did photography, and put every penny I made back into the business, often taking the fee for an entire wedding to buy a single pro-grade lens (and yes, the difference is noticeable!). And there are a ton of other hidden costs to the brides that, if you’re running your own business, you have to take into account as overhead, like the kind of computers that can support all the editing programs you have to run, software, external hard drives to store massively sized photos, insurance, education, etc. And way down on the list, the photographer (probably) would like to be paid themselves. 🙂
And listen, I totally get when people are able to charge less–I did it, we all start out there. Maybe they’re still in the learning/getting experience phase, or they have other means of supporting themselves, but eventually, if a photographer wants to both make a career of it and give their brides the best possible pics via the best possible equipment and editing, they HAVE to charge more. It’s just not optional. So I totally respect that every bride is on a budget and every budget is different, and I also respect that new photographers have to start somewhere and often, beginning photogs and brides who find each other share very happy results, and that’s awesome. I just want to try to clear up any bad feelings or misconceptions about photographers can’t or don’t charge the minimum–I promise you, it’s business–not greed.
Post # 11
@SarahBrownDowntown I totally agree! People don’t realize that you aren’t JUST PAYING for the 4 or 8 hours the photographer is phsically at your wedding. You’re paying for the 20-30 hours of post-processing that a good photographer does on weddings. Have many people out there looked at how much the professional Adobe Creative Suite costs? Around $1600. Lightroom? $300. Multiple camera bodies? $2500 a pop. Lenses? $350-$2000 each. And these need to be upgraded and serviced regularly. Photographers that are *worth* the money invest a ton of time and resources into your wedding. It isn’t a scheme to milk you for money. Even photographers who charge a lot often don’t make more than $60,000-70,000 a year, and the average is much lower. Do your research before slamming photographers.
Post # 12
Thanks for your comment @SarahBrownDowntown. I absolutely agree with you. I’m not a professional photographer, but my wedding photographer is a friend of mine. FI and I are paying her $5500 for photography, and some people here may think that’s ridiculous or exorbitant, but she’s worth every penny. You get what you pay for people. I know she works her butt off to make every photo beautiful and you’re right– all the overhead and equipment costs have to be factored in. I should add that for that price, we’re getting all-day wedding coverage, an e-session, 650 prints, all images on CD, second photog, online proofing, and an album. I think we’re actually getting a lot for our money.
Post # 13
Thanks for the support, guys, and ddubzz, I TOTALLY forgot to mention second photog. I hope mine never reads this–he will be PISSED! 🙂 I think that mostly it’s an issue of people not really knowing what all goes into it, and it’s so hard for photographers to get that information out there. But thank you and crayfish for helping. 🙂
Post # 14
Of course it’s nothing about you personally! Maybe ridiculously over priced is a better phrase for my feelings towards it. I understand it is expensive to run a business (that’s what I do for work) but when you look at most small business owners they don’t pay themselves and their profit margin is VERY small. With photog prices around or over 1k for 4 hours is just out of controll. Personally I wouldn’t pay anything that type of money to do anything.
Im not trying to offend anyone its just how i feel.
Post # 15
My FI freaked out about photographer prices when I said that the one I would love to hire starts at $4,000 which is way out of our budget. I thought this would help put things in perspective when I told him that I was looking in the $2,000-$2,500 range but no dice. He said that he doesn’t even want to discuss it because he will never understand and I should just go ahead and book whoever I want. Really? Would never have guessed our first wedding fight would be about the photos. Luckily our moms and his sister are being supportive of my decisions!
Post # 16
Mishelleez, I know you weren’t trying to offend anyone and I absolutely understand that it’s a lot of money. And I have no problem with brides (or anyone) being on a budget. I just hope to help people understand that even if someone is out of your budget, doesn’t necessarily mean they’re “overpriced”.
Lo, good luck–I know it’s hard. Maybe he’ll come around eventually–I know when I get frustrated, I sometimes need a cooling off period before I can have a rational discussion. Keep on keepin on!