(Closed) FI doesn't want children as soon as I do..HELP!

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Future Mrs.L:  Is there any reason that you are worried about having trouble conceiving? Family history, past medical history, etc?  If he’s definitely not ready right now, it looks like you might have to wait a while.  But maybe he’d be willing to start trying in a year or two; it’s not that far away, and you can still take steps to ready yourself/saving $$$ for baby-making.  Plus, if you put a timeline on it, for example 2 years, he might start thinking about the reality of it/get excited, and want to try sooner.  That happend with my ex; we were targeting 5 years after marriage, and then it got moved up to 4, and then 3, etc.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Yes, I have been there. Still am. I have daughter and for my boyfriend that’s enough. But i really really really want to have another baby. It does drive me crazy, but i’m sort of coming to terms with it. Wich took me about 2 years though.

So, first advice: hang in there. It’s going to be tough and you won’t feel so great all of the time, but you will not feel sucky every minute of every day. Know that the anxiety you’re feeling will pass (and come back, but that will also pass). Besides: he does want to so Yay!

Second: no, pressuring him may not be a good idea but you should talk to him about it! When you are upset just tell him your upset. Without accusing him of anything. But you have a right to feel how you feel and he is the one to support you through rough patches. It’s kinda his job as your SO right?

Also: you might be able to compromise. Talk to him about that. Ask him about his timeframe and ask him about the things he needs/wants to do before starting a family. 

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