Post # 1
Hive! I need your advice. I had made a pre-ceremony photo timeline that included two hours of pictures, including one hr of just me and FI taking pictures around the very old, historical city where we’re getting married. I mentioned it to him, in passing, yesterday, really thinking it was not a big deal…and he was like, there is no way, it will be 90 degrees out, I don’t want to be sweating before the ceremony, why can’t we just take pictures at the venue…you can imagine the rest.
I tried to offer taking those pretty pictures AFTER the ceremony/not taking wedding party pictures all around to address the heat/sweating issue but he doesn’t want to miss cocktail hour (and neither do I). We’d been doing wedding stuff for hours and I think we both really overreacted (I seriously cried for 2 whole hours afterwards. The wedding is in a month–can you tell? haha). He said he was willing to talk about it again today, but I’m not really sure what to offer as a compromise/how to approach it.
Although the weather I KNOW is a huge factor for him (he can sweat a lot) I think a lot of it is also like the “spectacle” of walking around and having people see him–he’s a much more reserved person and doesn’t appreciate that kind of attention. I understand that. But I was really dreaming of the beautiful pictures in the ruins, with the ocean background, in front of the 500 year old statues… 🙁 Suggestions, please?
Post # 3
Well, if it were me I’d pick one place to take a picture. One place that you both agree to after the wedding is over, then head to cocktail hour.
Post # 4
Can you take these pictures after the wedding in between wedding and reception? I personally am not a big fan of pre-ceremony photos myself or the idea or taking pics around the city and drawing all that attention so I can definitely understand him. I’m sure you can come up with a compromise that works for both of you
Post # 5
Have him bring a spare dress shirt. 🙂
When he’s with his lovely bride, he probably won’t even notice the other people around.
Post # 6
Ruins? Ocean? 500-y-o statues? Wherever this place is sounds awesome. I am, however, inclined to agree with your FI. If he sweats a lot, then you’ll be able to see it in the pictures, and him being miserable will make you miserable, and it will probably translate into the photos…is there any way you can either do it another day altogether (on a less emotional day he might have an easier time with the spectacle part, AND you could take more time with pix to include taking breaks in the shade, ice cream eating, etc.) OR maybe at night, after everything’s over, if the schedule permits. Night photos would be cooler, fewer people out, etc. And some cool lighting/flash effects on the ruins could be pretty neat. Good luck! 1 month yay!
Post # 7
@MsJeep23: haha i’m talking about old san juan, PR!
@KatyElle: picking one place is actually not a bad idea. if he’ll agree to the ruins, we would be able to get a few pictures also with the ocean in the background and there’s a museum there too, so that would allow him to take AC breaks, as needed.
@iheartnerds: the spare shirt is also a wonderful idea. that will prob help a lot.
@bells: i am not 100% comfortable in the spotlight either, but i feel like it will be exciting and once-in-a lifetime and all that… guess the WIC has really gone to my head 😉 ahh to be one month out!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t press for anything that you are not both on board with. You want your wedding to be memorable not something someone has to suck a few things up for.
The idea of pictures is nice, but the heat issue is real too. I would compromise on one location that you can both agree on and move on. THis will be the start of many compromises you willl have to make as a married couple when you don’t see eye to eye on things.
If you really love that location, discuss doing a post wedding shoot there a few weeks after. It would require you getting hair and makeup re-done and your FI rerenting his tux, and getting your photographer to agree to do it, but it has been done and can work.
Post # 9
I would compromise day of and pick one location and some time for him to freshen up before the ceremony. Then see if you can schedule a day after session/ rock the dress session to walk around the city so you don’t have the stress of the actual wedding day to worry about.
Post # 10
I would tell him how about take about 10 or so poses or less, taking about 15 minutes worth of time! So no sweating 🙂
Post # 11
ya, i think 2 hours is a lot and can easily be comprised which still result in amazing photos. i would bargain with him for time. example, suggest and hour and bring it down to half an hour or something like that. should still be plenty of time. even bargain for number of locations. i think if u say you want 5 spots, you could end up with 2 – 3! which is more than the 1 PPs are suggesting.