Post # 1
so long story short. my FI downsized his side from 4 to 2. my side has 6, but i personally think this will look weird (my personal opinion). i need to find a tasteful way of telling the 4 girls i will just be having 2 (my sisters). no dresses have been purchased, but i know this is going to hurt people’s feelings. any etiquette advise???
Post # 3
This may not go over well and you are def. going to hurt feelings. Is it worth it in the end, just because you think it looks ‘weird’? A lot of people will suggest that you give them a reading or some other kind of duty during the wedding, but truth is, you are taking away an honour that was given to them. I know how it feels to be in a tough spot while picking the wedding party, but it seems as though you picked your party because they were girls that you felt special about. To take that away is going to possibly cause conflict and all because of the aesthetics of it all? Not worth it, in my opinion. A wedding is all about you and your groom in the end, so do what you want, obviously. But also, a wedding is not about hurting people and causing negative feelings. Its for celebration and love! good luck!
Post # 4
I think that it will work okay if you have the ladies walk down on their own. To put it in context – FH was in a wedding where there were 14 groomsmen and 7 bridesmaids. So, there have been lopsided weddings on a much grander scale than 6 to 2, especially since you’re only a month out (unless your date isn’t accurate).
Post # 5
I think you’re going to break some hearts… I wouldn’t downsize just because he did!
You could have a GM walk out with two BMs on either side of him & have your MOH walk alone… or you could have your bridal party take a seat during the ceremony and only have your MOH & Best man stand up with you. There are always options! Breaking 4 girls hearts doesn’t seem like the best one…
Post # 6
How about have your two sisters walk alone or together and his two groomsmen with two girls.. one on each side?!
Post # 7
I agree that you don’t have to downsize your party just because your FI did. You asked these girls to be your bm’s because you wanted them to be a part of your special day and I don’t think you should ask them to step down simply because you are going to have uneven numbers. There are plenty of people that don’t have the same number of gm and bm and I don’t think it will look weird to have 6 bm and only 2 gm. If it really does bother you, though, then just tell your friends that things have changed and that you feel it would be best to just have your sisters as bm. Tell them that you decided to have only family in your bridal party.
Post # 8
Don’t cut anyone out of your side. There’s no rule that says both sides have to be even. If you’re really concerned about even numbers, it would be better to promote your brothers or cousins to groomsmen than to demote your bridesmaids.
Post # 9
Don’t cut anyone unless your FI really wants you to.
You don’t have to have everyone standing with you (if you are concerned about visual aesthetics!)
What about having them still walk and have them sit in the front (and have your MOH and his BM stand with you)?
If I was one of the 4, I would understand – but, it would be disappointing!