FI ex contacted him

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Ayybety: I think she’s just happy for ya’ll unless she does something fishy in the coming weeks, i’d just ignore it.

Post # 4
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t worry about it. Really. If you’re not inviting her to the wedding or planning on spending time with her, it doesn’t matter why she contacted him.

Post # 5
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5518 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can see how it can be perplexing.  But unless she starts calling a whole lot more I wouldnt read too much into it.

Post # 6
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

I would just ignore it. 

If she doesn’t try to get in contact again, great.  If she does, fiancée can handle it. 

I don’t know why she’s contacting him, but it probably doesn’t matter; it doesn’t sound like your fiancée is interested in talking to her at all. 

Post # 7
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3389 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can’t believe people can’t just let things go and move on. It has the  potential to be fishy. she ignored you until she found out you were engaged… Why? Strange if you ask me.

Post # 8
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Ayybety:  It sounds like she wants a reaction from you/him. Don’t give her one. Ignore it and move on.

She ignores your purposefully because it draws attention to her. If she walked up and said “Hi. How are you?” (the fake How are you…not the real one) and left there would be nothing to talk about or react to.

Same thing with the phone call. She has to get some sort of reaction from him. So she called and pretended to play nice because she wants the reaction/attention.

Don’t play her game. Ignore her calls and be polite when you are out and run into her.

Post # 13
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3389 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Ayybety:  I think the fact that he’s getting married and she isn’t probably stings for her. she sounds like a whackadoodle LOL stay away from her and advise your FI to do the same. Don’t feed the beast by paying her any attention:)

Post # 14
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Ayybety:  Is it super weird? Yes. But I would just ignore it, and if she tries contacting again, just flat out ignore her. She gave you well wishes, take it at face value, and keep ignoring her.

Post # 15
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Ayybety:  It’s possible she has ulterior motives. It’s also possible she genuinely wanted to wish him well.

Provided she doesnt follow this up with any other contact, I wouldn’t get too fussed over it. It’s up to your FI to put a stop to it if she does attempt to initiate any further/ongoing contact. 

Post # 16
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  People have this odd way of crawling out of the wood work when you start talking about getting married.  A girl who I haven’t seen since she got married, and really is only invited to our wedding because her husband was a close friend of my FI, is now inviting me to everything. 

I wouldn’t worry about it unless she starts calling frequently.

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