- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So my now Fiance (yay!) proposed about a month ago after two years of dating. Since about a week into it, I’ve been looking up venues, etc., trying to nail down a date. He initially said that he wanted to get married in May 2013, but I just don’t think we can secure a venue with 8 mos. to go. Some places I’ve talked to are already booked until Oct. 2013.
He doesn’t seem to think we need a year to do this. He thinks that I’m rushing the planning by starting a year out, and that we have plenty of time. I disagree. He doesn’t like talking about the wedding details, and makes an exasperated face every time I start the conversation.
I asked him a few times if he really wanted to get married, and he said that he’s so excited to be married to me, be my husband, etc., but that the idea of a big wedding scares him. He does suffer from anxiety, so we agreed that he will help with the big things like venue and food, and I will take care of everything else.
He also doesn’t like the idea of a lot of people looking at us, being the center of attention, etc. (I’m extremely outgoing, and he is very introverted. It works for us because I talk and he listens, lol). So I suggested a Destination Wedding (something he had expressed wanting to do in the past), but he’s worried that important people like grandparents, etc. won’t be able to come. I get it. But to me you either have the big white wedding at home with everyone, or if you don’t want to be in front of so many people, you do the smaller, more intimate beach wedding. You can’t have both. But when I try to discuss it, he gets flustered and can’t make a decision.
I just want to know if any other bees have FI’s that suffer from anxiety, and how you pulled off the planning process without stressing him out. I’m open to both a large wedding, or the small Destination Wedding, but I need his input!!!
Sorry for the novel – thanks to those of you who made it through! Advice is appreciated.