Post # 1
My wonderful FI who proposed a month ago and who I love dearly did the most IDIOTIC thing I can imagine. He was driving my truck, and stopped at a gas station to run inside to get a drink LEAVING THE CAR RUNNING AND KEYS IN THE IGNITION!!! As soon as he was about to go inside someone hopped into the driver seat and sped off with my beautiful truck, which I just got in September by the way.
I love him and I want to be understanding, but I can’t get over his lapse in judgement! On top of that the insurance company may deny my claim. They may not, but it’s possible that they will (for a number of reasons I’d rather not get into).
Is this a test? This is probably the most trying thing our relationship has been through. He’s a great guy, treats me like the most important thing in his life, and is extremely committed. But I worry about how responsible he is, especially after this!
I hope I get over this feeling. I just need to be able to trust his judgement if we’re going to merge our lives, have kids, and be together forever.
Post # 3
Did you find your car/ call the police?
Post # 4
@Reign14: ugh, that is horrible. Sorry about your truck. Please forgive him and move past it. If my husband judged me by my most idiotic move, it would have found myself alone a long time ago. We all have moments of supreme idiocy and the great thing about love is that we overlook those for each other.
Post # 5
Does the gas station have surveillance?
Hopefully the cops can find who did it.
Post # 6
I definitely think you have every right to be upset (I’d be fuming), but everyone makes mistakes. Yes, this is a pretty dumb mistake lol, but I don’t think you can base his ability to handle all responsibilities because of this. We all do really stupid stuff sometimes.
I hope you get your truck back. :
Post # 7
@Eva Peron: Yeah this happened Friday. We called the police and everything. They haven’t found it yet.
Post # 8
Yikes, I’m sorry you are going through this. I would be so angry I’m your shoes, so I think that’s a normal reaction. Try not to be too hard on your FI. He didn’t know this would happen and I see people leave theory car running at the gas station all the time. Good luck!
Post # 9
@mrsbruff2b: Yeah they got the guy on video and they’re investigating. But in this area stolen cars are rarely recovered. If they are, they’re usually damaged.
Post # 10
Oh boy. : ( I’m sorry. I definitely understand being stressed about this, but I agree with PP; if we were all judged by our stupidest moves, we’d all be alone.
Keeping my fingers crossed that they find your truck & it’s OK.
Post # 11
OMG. I am so sorry. I hope the police are able to find it and/or your insurance company accepts your claim. (What, you mean “My FI is kind of a huge moron” isn’t covered under your insurance policy?) 😛
I know it must be very difficult to maintain trust in him after this – but for what it’s worth, I think this is just one of those things that people do without even thinking – he has probably done it hundreds of times before and never thought something like this would happen. It doesn’t excuse it, but we all have those stupid things we do when we get too complacent. The number of times my parents left us in the running car as kids while they ran into a store or went up to an ATM…
This will probably be a big wake-up call for him, though. Seriously. He probably feels terrible.
But wow – what a trump card to have in your arsenal during arguments for years to come! “Oh, yeah? Well, remember when you got my car stolen??”
(I’m joking, obviously. I really hope this all works out okay for you!)
Post # 12
I agree with @deathbydesign. It sucks that he made this mistake and showed a huge lack of judgement, but I liken it to one of those dumb small judgement calls people make every day with full knowledge that it’s dumb. Normally everything works out fine (it’s like leaving your car unlocked when you go to the store and coming back relieved to find everything accounted for), but this time around things didn’t turn out so well. I’m sure he feels horrible about it and knows that he was very very wrong – I wouldn’t try to make him feel worse than he already does.
I’m sorry you haven’t been able to find it yet – that SUCKS! Hopefully they’ll find who did it soon, and/or everything works out with your insurance.
Post # 13
@Reign14: 🙁 Does your FI not have a vehicle of his own? Not that it really matters to ask that question, but I hope he’s letting you drive it around!
Give yourself some physical space from him and let yourself cool off. Try some relaxation techniques. Try not to make him feel too guilty for it, but do let him know you aren’t pleased that he did the wrong thing. Moving past it is the key to preserving your relationship, and that requires forgiveness, but move at your own pace. I’m so sorry about your truck. 🙁 🙁 🙁 I really am.
Post # 14
Oh no. 🙁
A woman I used to work with had a similar thing happen – her husband had the car running to warm up while their got their kids ready to go, and bam, the car was gone. I hope this works out in the end (at least, as far as the claim goes if nothing else).
Post # 15
You ladies are the best, really. I feel better already after reading your responses.
Post # 16
My dad did this once, and his car got stolen too. He’s kind of a space cadet, but he’s not irresponsible about big things (paying bills, saving, etc.) so I wouldn’t use it as an example of broader irresponsibility. Just occasional flakiness. 😛
That said, I’d still have steam coming out of my ears if I were you!!!