(Closed) FI had a dream about threesomes..

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Threesomes?
    We engaged in one one together. : (14 votes)
    8 %
    We have thought about it and that's it. : (42 votes)
    25 %
    I want, he doesn't. : (8 votes)
    5 %
    He wants, I don't. : (11 votes)
    7 %
    Not our thing. : (94 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We had one in college 3 days before graduation. It was awesome. It revved up our sex life like nothing else. There was no jealousy. We would both do it again!

    Post # 4
    Member
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I have had one, just not with DH. Mine was female, female, male as well. It was mostly me and the other girl. It was a pretty good time, but not something I could see myself doing a lot.

    I think we would both be too jealous to do it together. The one I had was totally no-strings.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Curious? Yes. Intriguied? Yes. Would I kill her? Yes.

    Post # 6
    Member
    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’ve thought about but that it.  For us, I see it as one of those that is a lot better in our imagination and fantasies than it would end up being in real life.  So why kill the fantasy?

    Post # 9
    Member
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    You mentioned that you both are jealous people so a 3some might not be the best idea for you guys.

    I will say that if it is something you are interested in keep the lines of communication open! Discuss EVERYTHING. And set boundaries right away so there are no hurt feelings.

    I have been in one, before I was with FI (female, female, male). It was a lot of fun! FI and I have discussed it and will probably have one at some point. We’re just waiting for the right girl. 😉

    Post # 10
    Member
    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @vmec: This is exactly how I feel. FI and I have discussed a bit because he has done it before with previous women he dated but it was never female female male. It was always two guys and the girl. He really wants to have one with me and another girl but all sorts of problems come into that. Who would the other girl be? How would we find someone interested? Also I am a pretty jealous person so I would not be okay with him actually having sex with her. I would be fine with oral and touching and pretty much everything else but he seems to think that ruins the purpose of a threesome. So for us, I am willing to bet, it will never happen.

    Post # 12
    Member
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @Mrs.KMM: we pretty much feel the same way. Its happened in the past, so not sure what the future holds…

    Post # 14
    Member
    321 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We’ve done one–it’s a lot more complicated than I thought it would be.  We’ll probably do it once more and that’s it–it was with a friend, so that adds complication. 

    ETA: My guy was attracted to this friend of ours but never did anything about it, and she was open to the idea,  I’m really good friends with her, so that kinda adds a layer.

    Post # 15
    Member
    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I have but not with FI. I wouldnt do one with him because we would both be way to jealous. For us I dont think it would be healthy for our relationship. But Im glad that some of you have went through that experience with no issues.

    Post # 16
    Member
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Rouquine: Honestly, there is a lot to be said about just fantasizing about it!! 😉

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