- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I am going to kill my FI. Literally. He is seriously pissing me off lately. In the winter months, sometimes he doesnt work because he does hard labor outside. Since Thanksgiving, he has probably worked 35% of what he normally would. (His normal schedule is M-F 7am-4pm or something along those lines. Since hes been off, we are fighting & he doesnt understand why I feel the way I feel. I have an ebay store & theres never days off. You still fill orders every holiday and ship daily when the Post office is open. Plus I work at a bar on Fri & Sat nights, & it never closes either. So I work reguardless or holidays/weather. Since FI has barely been working, all of his income is paying his student loan payment & car payment. Plus hes been going out, spending money on food, & went to the bengals game last Sunday. What Im getting at, is Ive paid ALL OF THE BILLS for probably 3 months. When hes typically working his normal shifts, I get 300-400$ a week from his account & pay the bills/rent. So this is 3 months of NO HELP financially, while he frollics around drinking with buddies & eating out carelessly.
FI didnt work Monday or Tuesday this week because of the cold temps, but then just got the call last night that hes off ALL WEEK and doesnt go back until Monday. I want to kill him. So hes been off A TON lately, and now its 9 days straight of him playing video games, lounging around, bothering me while I try to work on my computer daily… so heres where the resentment comes in. Not only am I paying for literally everything, he gripes when I ask him to do stuff that needs done.
Examples I have requested he do in the past few weeks that we have gotten into an argument over: Give the dog a bath, take my pomeranian to the vet, take the dogs to get groomed, shampoo the living room carpet, do the dishes, put together my new dresser, wash the sheets, fold his own laundry, drop my ebay orders in the post office bin. etc, etc.
So these things I’ve asked if he would do are over the course of 2 months. He moans, groans, gripes, gets upset when I ask him to do ANYTHING reguarding cleaning, or errands that I do every week while I work my two jobs and pay for everything. In his mind, he sees nothing wrong with this situation. I am starting to feel used and seeing a lazy side of him that I really dislike. Trying to talk to him like an adult doesnt work. He doesnt think he should be doing anymore around the house than he usually does because hes not working or contributing.
Tbh, he rarely does any errands/dog stuff/bank/bills/cleaning, because I let him off the hook since he complains about working so hard at work. I basically do it all & he may do the dishes 1x a week & clear off the countertop. I just folded 2 months of his laundry from the basement because he begged me to ‘help’, but that meant me basically doing it all.
Bees, he is driving me nuts. Am I wrong here or is he? How do I fix this situation? I feel like I have an adult child in my house lately. Its really upsetting me.