Post # 1
Sooooo before my fiance and I met he made a bad decision and had an ex’s name tattooed on his arm. It’s kind of been an ongoing joke, but I just realized that we are about to get married and go on our honeymoon.. on the beach. And my name isn’t Alli. Would you want your fi to get this tattoo covered up or removed? The thought of him walking around with it on our honeymoon freaks me out.
Post # 3
I’d only want it to be removed if he did. Removal can scar and tattoos can be expensive.
It wouldn’t bother me. It’s part of his past, obviously he isn’t marrying Alli, he’s marrying you.
Post # 4
I would want it covered but I wouldn’t make him do it. It’s his body!
Post # 5
Yes, I would want to have it covered, and I feel like he would too. I would definitely have a serious conversation with him about it, and if he didn’t want it covered, why?
Post # 6
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Yessss. Though I’m.wondering why he didn’t cover / remove it as soon as they broke up.
Post # 7
I won’t lie, I’d want it covered up. There’s a lot of extremely talented artists out there that could cover it up easily.
Post # 8
Oh that thing would be covered and a long time ago. It would have been covered long before the wedding. I wouldn’t be able to look at it without thinking about him with her. He wouldn’t get me in his future without putting her in the past where she belongs
Post # 9
@lcutter711: I had my ex’s name tattooed on me. I only did it because he put my name about 10 inches long on his inner forearm and I felt obligated. Then we finally broke up and ironically FI has the exact same first name as my ex. I still covered up my ex’s name. FI hated seeing it on me. It’s kind of like being branded. I will NEVER do that again.
Post # 10
Yes, I would want it covered, and I KNOW he would want it covered. Covering tattoos isnt usually a huge deal as long as you get something bigger/larger, and aren’t super picky about what is used to cover it up. But honestly, almost anything is better than a name of an ex.
I had a wrist tattoo covered and you can’t even tell it was something else previously.
Post # 11
Covered or removed. I’m fine with pictures of exes, gifts from exes… But a tattoo? Just no.
But then again, I’m against name tattoos in general, unless you are legitimately married (even then) or it’s a tribute to your parents or something. Girlfriend’s tattoo? Please no.
Post # 12
@lcutter711: What about repurposing the tattoo? Alli would be awfully easy to change to something else. He could change it to Allies to symbolize your relationship, or turn it into Alligator because…he likes alligators? If you’re very pale he could change it to Allibaster but only if he didn’t mind people thinking he’s a lousy speller 😉
Post # 13
I’d be pretty insistent that he cover it… there’s a lot of very talented artists who could make it like it was never there and end up with a better design than a name anyway. If he doesn’t like that… well that’s the risk you take when you get a name tattoo. I love tattoos and if you want to get a name, that’s fine, but I feel like you should know that there’s some chance you’ll need to cover it or something.
Post # 14
@lcutter711: Honestly speaking, I would not at all be comfortable with my SO having a tattoo of another woman’s name . And IF there are measures that can be taken to hide/get rid of the tattoo, then I would full encourage that. Besides, I’m pretty sure my SO would not be happy at all to find out I have another man’s name on my body…
ETA: Maybe you can ask him how he would feel if the situation was reversed?
Post # 15
@lcutter711: I don’t understand why it hasn’t been covered yet… I had my ex’s name tattooed when I was young (very silly mistake) but I got it covered up the day after we broke up… I would go for cover up rather than removal as removal takes a very long time
Post # 16
Hello I have a similar issue my advice would biy the tatoo cover up for the wedding and honey moon but as soon as you guys could afford it have it covered up into something about your guys relationship its covering up the past with newer and better things :).. tattoos are expensive sometimes so dont stress to get it done if money isnt in budget for it or depending on when the wedding is. But like mentioned earlyier by someone is hes not marrying her hes marrying her so try not to let it stand in the way.