(Closed) FI hates my dress

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do if FI hates your dream dress?
    Choose a new one : (86 votes)
    61 %
    Buy it anyway : (37 votes)
    26 %
    Have a dress made that looks exactly the same but floor length : (18 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    At first I was thinking wear it, you have valid points about eloping and easier to get around in…

    but then I realized you haven’t bought it yet so I think you should keep looking.

    Do you plan on showing FI every dress you think you’re going to buy?  I only ask because he might not like something … until he sees you in it!  I’m sure you know how to dress yourself but if FI is more traditional and you can’t talk him out of the points you mention above I would personally look for a more traditional dress.  It can still be easy to get around in.

    FWIW, and to help you understand where I’m coming from, when FI and I started looking at rings I realized he wanted something much more traditional than I thought we would, I love it but wouldn’t have picked it out without his help!

    Post # 4
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    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Ugh Men!  I think if your heart is set on it buy the tea length.  But if you want to go put some long ones on to ease your mind thats a very good idea.

    FWIW, we got married in Vegas with 23 guests.  I wore a long sheath dress and it was easy to move in/not heavy

    Post # 5
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    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Ok since you haven’t bought it I would keep looking if it were me personally. Now that you have an idea that he likes long surely you can find something you like as good…..possibly just the longer version of the dress you like? You can still do all the things you want like red shoes, bouquet, petticoat!!

    Post # 6
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    8464 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @beesbelle:  Why don’t you just go try it on first?  If it really fits you well, and you still like it, you can go from there.  Maybe even have your FI go with you?  I took my FI dress shopping with me, and it was really fun going with him (whenever I go shopping with my mom she just tells me how fat I am).  Just don’t rush anything, your perfect dress will find you no matter what.

    Post # 7
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    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I say give him some time to come around to the idea. It may have been just a gut reaction. Explain your reasons for wanting a shorter dress (which I totally agree with, by the way). If, in the end, he still adamantly wants you in a floor length dress, and you’re okay with it, then go floor length. But maybe he’ll come around to tea length after he’s had some time to think and it’s not quite so new and shocking.

    Post # 8
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    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @beesbelle:  He might not like it on the model, but will love it on you because you will be his bride. I think guys have different reactions to dresses when they are in the moment and see you coming down the aisle. On the other hand would you want him to wear something that you didn’t like or never pictured on your groom? If you are dead set on it then go for it, but maybe try to compromise.

    Post # 9
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Maybe have him you see in another tea length style dress and then decide. But ultimately I’d never wear something my SO didn’t like.

    Post # 11
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    222 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    He is marrying YOU not the dress so he will EASILY get over it.

    Post # 13
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Every dress looks awful on the model.  Don’t keep showing him dresses, find something you love, and it will be fine.

    Post # 15
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    983 posts
    Busy bee

    Ask him to show you a few ideas and go from there.

    Post # 16
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    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @beesbelle:  I personally would keep the FI out of the dress-buying decision unless he is paying for your dress. It is your wedding day too and you should wear what makes you feel beautiful and comfortable! 

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