Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m moved and settled into my new home in Oregon….soooo I’m back 🙂
Last week the FI and I were over at our good friends’ house, and they announced that their parents are giving us a free week in Hawaii at their condo! It’s in Maui, and all we’d have to pay for is the flight, rental car and food. Needless to say, I was excited! FI said he was too, until our ride home.
He said that he ‘doesn’t want to go to Hawaii, because that’s where everyone goes.’ But, he said he’ll go, because it’s cheap, and it makes me happy. So I asked him where he would want to go? He says Ireland. Ireland would take wayyyy too long to plan and we don’t have the money.
How can you not be excited for a really inexpensive but nice honeymoon to Hawaii? Ugh, what do you suggest??
Post # 4
tell him that you’ll go to ireland for an anniversary, after you’ve had the chance to save money. he might just be disappointed that his dream honeymoon won’t happen, so assure him it will eventually.
Post # 5
I would tell him that it’s not that you like the idea of Maui better than Ireland, but you’re looking at it from a financial aspect. Ask him if he would be okay with the two of you drawing up a realistic list of all the expenses that would go into each trip so he can really look at numbers and see how much money you would be saving. I would feel the same way as you!
Post # 6
Some guys don’t like the beach and mai-tais thing. Wild horses couldn’t drag my fiance to a resort, and he’d only be unhappy anyway. He should enjoy his honeymoon, and it doesn’t sound like he’ll enjoy Hawaii. Maybe you could postpone your trip and save up for a honeymoon in Ireland a few months after the wedding? Or do both, since the hawaii house is someone’s gift, if I’m reading right…
Post # 7
I would take the free honeymoon (because it’s Hawaii, and it’s free!) and then plan your first official vacation as a married couple to Ireland. Then you’ll get a romantic (and extremely cheap) honeymoon to Hawaii right after your wedding, and then the trip of your husband’s dreams in a year (or whenever, 5 yr anniversary to save up and make it extravagant, etc). See if there’s some sort of happy compromise you can make.
Post # 8
I think you should take this trip for your honeymoon and start saving for Ireland for your 1st year anniversary. I would love to go to Europe for my honeymoon, but I’m not sure we have the funds or will have the time off from work left over (we will have to take some time off before the wedding to plan and the week of). So we are planning to go to Europe next year!
Post # 9
Tell you what. You give ME the honeymoon. I’ll gladly go for free, lol.
Post # 10
all we’d have to pay for is the flight, rental car and food
sorry but i dont consider this a free honeymoon
Post # 11
Well, must your trip be a honeymoon trip? You can go to Ireland on your HM and go to HI some other time. However, if the gift was specifically for your HM, I’d take it. HI sounds good to me!
Post # 12
I told him that we can go to Ireland next year, or for our 5 year anniversary, and he still just shrugged his shoulders and said ‘now’s the only time we’ll be able to go on a trip like this.’
He’s just super practical normally, so it’s weird to hear him wanting something extravagant over the nearly free trip!
Post # 13
Oh gosh that’s crazy. I would love to go to Hawaii! Especially with a free place to stay. Does he have any valid reasons besides that’s what everyone does? It seems like too good of a deal to pass up, especially if you’re on a limited budget. Where in Oregon did you move to? I’m in Eugene 🙂
Post # 14
Show him all the great things that he can do that don’t just include the beach (deep sea fishing, biking, hiking, black beaches, zip lining, horses, helicopter rides etc) and he may get more excited.
Agree with PP, start planning and saving (by opening a specific bank acct) for an Ireland trip for the future.
Post # 15
We are in the same position as you and your FI. We were given a week stay in Hawaii from my cousin, after I had mentioned that we would probably do something low key for the Honeymoon since we’re covering the majority of the wedding. Now my FI has decided that he wants to give me (and him) the honeymoon of our dreams (yeah!). So Hawaii is now our back-up.
In the meantime, we are both keeping an eye out for great deals. Have you checked Travelzoo? I’m not sure what your budget is, but they have great deals, especially on “last min” trips. We committed to each other that we would pick something by the end of February.
In the meantime, I spoke to my cousin and told her that we love her giving us a trip, and that we will use it for our anniversary. She was not at all offended, and was happy that we would use it.
Post # 16
How can you not be excited for a really inexpensive but nice honeymoon to Hawaii?
When it’s not where you really want to go?
Have you discussed Ireland? Maybe if you show him the airfare, hotel, and transportation costs to go to Ireland, he’ll see that it’s not in the budget and will be more “hot” to go to Hawaii?
FWIW – Hawaii, even with a free condo, is not a cheap vacation spot.