Post # 1
I’ve been thinking about whether to wear a veil over my face or not and decided to ask FI if he has an opinion. Well, he told me that he doesn’t want me to wear a veil at all. Apparently he thinks they look really old fashioned and that it’s the equivalent of him wearing a top hat! I’ve always imagined myself wearing a veil at least during the ceremony and honestly, I’ve been kind of obsessing over this gorgeous mantilla I tried on (haven’t bought it yet). But I also want FI to love the way I look when I’m walking down the aisle toward him…sigh.
Would you still wear a veil if your FI told you he hates them?
Post # 3
You could wear a veil and just not cover you face with it.
It is funny about the top hat. I am having a Victorian wedding, so my fiance will be wearing a top hat
Post # 4
it’s your wedding too and i think it’s okay if you wore a veil to the wedding and compromise by taking it off during the reception. M doesn’t like bird cage veils, so i restructured to the drop veils, so believe me i understand where you’re coming from. BTW, he is just a guy and I doubt if he’ll remember anything on your wedding day besides how beautiful you are. You may want to show him mantilla veils and ask him what he thinks of them, not letting him know it’s what you like, you know?
Post # 5
maybe he’s thinking of a certain type of veil. why don’t you go through the different kinds and see what he thinks? maybe he’ll like something more modern.
Post # 6
I’m in a similar situation. The only veils I like are birdcage veils, but when I showed my fiance one he said he really didn’t like it. In the end I decided to go without, because a birdcage is so much of a statement that if he didn’t like it, it would be hard to ignore. If it is really important to you though, I would have a talk with him and say that you really love veils and see if he could look at some different styles and comment on which he likes/dislikes more. Tell him how much it means to you and it may turn out that his opinions aren’t really that strong…
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestion ladies, but I tried showing him a few different types of veils and he doesn’t like any of them. I kind of pouted after that and he was like, “but I thought you like that I’m honest.” I think I may have to warn him not to be honest if he doesn’t like my dress!!
Post # 8
I think its important to wear what you love since its your wedding, but you also want your FI to love it. Do you think its one of those things he would change his mind if he saw it on you? My FI does that alot hell see a new dress I bought and think its weird, but then I put it on and he loves it. Sometimes guys have a hard time visualizing fashion. If you think he hates it for sure im not sure if I would still wear one personally. My fiance told me he hates dresses that are extreme mermaid because he thinks they look weird. I kept that in mind when i was dress shopping. I want to feel beautiful the day of my wedding as much as I want my fi to think I look beautiful.
Post # 9
No matter what you’re wearing on your wedding day, he is going to think you’re gorgeous. I personally HATED the idea of a veil until I tried one on. I had seen a million photos of all kinds of different veils and was convinced that I wouldn’t wear one. But when I tried one with my dress, it looked and felt perfect. So just because your FI doesn’t like veils, doesn’t mean he won’t like you in a veil. Also, if he hasn’t been to many weddings, or only been to weddings where the bride made unfortunate veil choices, his opinion might even be misinformed.
More generally, I don’t think your FI’s tastes should determined your bridal look – yours should matter most. When FI and I looked at some bridal magazines together in the very beginning of my engagement, I realized that we had very different tastes – he thought some bridal looks were hideous; I considered these same photos beautiful. This really upset me at first, but I eventually realized what I wrote above: he’s going to be blown away no matter what (and he told me the same thing). So we don’t really talk about it anymore, and I am doing what I think looks best.
Post # 10
Well there are many different types of veils. Maybe he wouldn’t mind a birdcage weil. Or you could wear flowers with a bunched veil in back or a headband or hat!
Post # 11
My FI didn’t like veils, either, and didn’t expect me to wear one, until I voiced my desire and he was ok with it. He had no idea how much it meant to me, and once he heard it, he was totally fine. But, he still doesn’t want me to wear a chapel/cathedral veil, which he think look like mosquito nets (ouch), and happens to be the kind I want to wear. lol I am still working on FI, but I think it’s important to wear a veil if it’s important to you. He shouldn’t object too much if you were only to wear it for the ceremony and take it off right after the ceremony so you’d be veil-free for the rest of the time?
I think even if my FI says he hates it, I’d still wear one at least just for the ceremony (which is how long I wanted to wear it anyway). I think I’d need to feel like a bride that I want to be.
Post # 12
You should tell him how much you want to wear one. Show him pics of different ones and bridal magazines to show him theu are not old-fashioned at all. If you want to wear one bad enough, I bet you can convince him.