Post # 1
My FI is not in the army, but all of his groomsmen are (3 of them). 2 of them are deployed right now and the other one JUST had a new baby. All three of them own dress blues and I was thinking it would be SO much easier to just invite them to wear their dress blues. FI is worried about 2 things though.
1) That he’ll look funny next to men in their dress blues
2) That people will think we’re trying to honor ourselves even when neither of us are service members
Personally I think he’ll look extremely handsome next to men in uniform and it won’t look like we’re honoring US but that we’re honoring THEM and other service members (FI’s parents both retired as colonels from the army after 28 years of service each). We’re not having a salute or anything like that (it isn’t a military wedding) and it will just be their “tuxedo”. Also, FI really wants to BUY his tuxedo, so having the groomsmen all uniformed (and seriously, they look damn sharp in their dress blues, talk about beautiful pictures next to my bridesmaids in long, plum colored lux chiffon dresses!) will cut costs and time trying to match his tuxedo.
So… what do you ladies think?
Post # 3
Hello! I wanted to give you my opinion- for what it is worth. Given the circumstance of all three groomsmen being in the Army & having dress blues- I say go for it.
I just asked my FI what his thoughts were (he is a LT in the Navy) and he thought you should go for it as well. Maybe you can put something in your program like “we’d like to thank all of those who have served our country- including our dearest friends, our groomsmen” or something like that? I am sure your guests know your FI’s parents history with the Army as well.
Honestly, I think it would make for really nice photos and also, so much more economical for your groomsmen as well. We are inviting all of our groomsmen to wear their respective uniforms at our wedding (my FI will be in uniform, so I guess that it is a bit different).
Good luck- let me know if you convince your FI!
Post # 4
With all 3 being in the military I say yes.
For my own, I said no. My brother is in the Marines, but my husband nor the other two groomsmen were, and I told my brother he needed to put his dress blues away for the day and wear what everyone else was wearing and DH agreed. Like I said, in your case I say do it.
Post # 6
Just going to pipe up a bit here.
My husband is in the Navy. He looks stunning in his blues and his whites, but that’s a part of his job, and he doesn’t want to bring his job “home” with him (so to speak) and he wants his job far out of his personal life. This is why we are not incorporating anything Naval into our house (Except for one wall plaque that was a housewarming gift) or our formal wedding.
My father and my husband share the same sentiment. When my husband has to wear his uniform for a change of command or what not, he comes home and immediately tears it off. If we’re going to a formal outing, he doesn’t even think of wearing it, even though it would fit the setting.
Before you ask this of these men, ask them how they feel about it, first. Some men may not be comfortable bringing their work into an intimate setting, especially if it isn’t a military wedding. I understand just how amazing they look in their blues, I get that, but this is also about respect for them as servicemen and as participants in your wedding.
If it were me, I would not ask anyone to wear a military/professional uniform in my formal wedding. Not my husband, not his best man (Who is Army), no one. I would never ask them to bring their job into a setting where they can be themselves and have a good time.
Post # 7
I would ask them but I don’t see why it would be an issue. They already have them and no man looks bad in a military uniform!
Post # 8
i would do a mix and match of whatever other suit/tuxes they have.
Post # 9
I say yes! even if all three werent in dress blues, still let them. They serve our country and they should be recognized for it! :)) dont let anyone say that theyd outshine your hubby, that is silly.
Post # 10
I think since they all three have them (and I’m assuming they are a perfect match) it will be fine. I think it would look weird if only 2/3 or 1/3 had it though.
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I would ask if they are okay with wearing them. There is a lot of tedious maintenance for dress uniforms. Getting them ready-to-wear can take time and money.
I’m in the military and while I take pride in my uniform…it is off and thrown over the back of a chair the moment I can change…Just my 2 cents.
Post # 14
I voted no, your Fi doesn’t seem to be on board with it. I have several military members in my family. Sometimes they wear it,typically when all the groomsman are in the military and other times they do not. I think it really depends on the couple and the wedding. I haven’t seen any one of them (mainly marines( get offended by it.